Adultery –“voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband” – (Merriam-Webster’s Online Dictionary)

Man of God, Woman of God, before you commit adultery, THINK!

Many in today’s permissive society consider extramarital sex acceptable and blameless, however in the Kingdom of God the sexual standard of marriage is fidelity, i.e. sexual relations between a man and his wife or a woman and her husband only.

 “Thou shalt not commit adultery.”

(Exodus 20:14 – KJV)

“No adultery.”

(Deuteronomy 5:18 – The Message)

 “Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.”

(Hebrews 13:4 – NLT)

“Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.”

(Hebrews 13:4 – The Message)

  Man of God, Woman of God, before you commit adultery, THINK!

God’s standard concerning extramarital sex is clear. He makes absolutely no room for sexual relations with anyone other than your spouse and provides no exceptions to His rule.

So often we hear, “if my wife/husband did/didn’t, would/wouldn’t, had/hadn’t, etc. then I would not have engaged in an affair.” There will undoubtedly be times of strained relations between you and your spouse within your marriage for one reason or another however God’s standards are absolute and do not change according to our situations, needs or desires.

“Then Jesus said to His disciples, If anyone desires to be My disciple, let him deny himself [disregard, lose sight of, and forget himself and his own interests] and take up his cross and follow Me [cleave steadfastly to Me, conform wholly to My example in living and, if need be, in dying, also].”

(Matthew 16:24 – Amplified Bible)

God does not permit, or say it is okay for us to us to engage in extramarital sex if our spouses do not meet some standard or expectation that we have in some area of our marriage. Instead, as in every other challenging situation, He tells us to deny ourselves, take up our cross and follow Jesus Christ (the Word), even if that means no sex.

Man of God, Woman of God, before you commit adultery, THINK!

You may say, oh but the temptation is too great. I can not help myself. Don’t you see all the fine-looking fellows and sexy looking ladies all around? Everywhere I turn some body is calling out to me. How can anyone stand up to that kind of temptation after all, we are only human? Surely God does not expect us to stay faithful to our spouse with all the other tempting delights He created all around us!

 “The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.”

(I Corinthians 10:13 – NLT)

“For no temptation (no trial regarded as enticing to sin), [no matter how it comes or where it leads] has overtaken you and laid hold on you that is not common to man [that is, no temptation or trial has come to you that is beyond human resistance and that is not adjusted and adapted and belonging to human experience, and such as man can bear]. But God is faithful [to His Word and to His compassionate nature], and He [can be trusted] not to let you be tempted and tried and assayed beyond your ability and strength of resistance and power to endure, but with the temptation He will [always] also provide the way out (the means of escape to a landing place), that you may be capable and strong and powerful to bear up under it patiently.”

(I Corinthians 10:13 – Amplified Bible)

After reading this scripture, it is clear that as far as God is concerned, temptation is no excuse for infidelity. He said that He will not allow any temptation to be more than we can stand and when tempted, He will always show us a way of escape.

So in light of this verse, we are not really being truthful when we say “I could not help myself” or “it just happened”, it would be more accurate to say “I could have helped myself but I chose not to” or “I saw the way of escape but I chose not to take it” – like one of my former pastors used to say, “It’s tight, but it’s right”.

 Man of God, Woman of God, before you commit adultery, THINK!

                                                                                                                                                                                  ……………to be continued