An Unorthodox Way to Deal with Workplace Enemies

Enemy – “A person who feels hatred for, fosters harmful designs against, or engages in antagonistic activities against another; an adversary or opponent.” –


If you have a workplace enemy, this post is for you.

The Kingdom of God has many principles that make absolutely no sense to the natural mind and as such require absolute faith and trust in God to follow.

When it comes to dealing with our enemies it is no different.

In the Old Testament, Proverbs 25:21, 22 states,

“If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals of fire on his head, and the LORD will reward you.” – (NIV-1984)

Now before you say, “hey that’s Old Testament”, the New Testament repeats this same principle in Romans 12:19-21.

“Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.

On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”

Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” (NIV-1984)


So Lord, what you are saying is:-

a) If someone does me wrong, I must not seek revenge because  you will deal with them for me.

b) Instead of “getting them back”, if they have a need that I am aware of, I should meet it.

c) This action will bring a degree of conviction about their wrong actions upon them even if they do not admit it.

d) You will reward me for being obedient in this matter.

e) I must not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.


Wow! – Is this unorthodox or what?

Up until now, you’ve dealt with your workplace enemy your way.

Are you ready to deal with him/her God’s way?

If so, this week, instead of seeking ways to hurt, get back at or avoid your enemy, be on the alert to find ways to help and/or be kind to him/her.

Depending on the opportunity, perhaps you can:-

  • Say “good morning” even if they don’t answer
  • Hold the door or elevator for them
  • Offer to make them a cup of coffee when you get yours
  • Volunteer to help them complete a task or project
  • If they get stuck in the office lunchtime, offer to bring something back for them to eat when you go out
  • Congratulate them on a success
  • Help them to lift or move something
  • If one of their family members is ill, ask about their well-being
  • Offer to pray for them if they have a tragedy or mishap

There are a myriad of ways to be kind to, help or meet a need of your enemy, but for greatest impact, ask the Holy Spirit to guide you in this regard.

When working in the corporate world, there was a particular executive that resented the fact that our superiors saw fit to appoint me as a member of the company’s executive team even though my organizational title was “Manager” and not “Assistant Vice President” or “Vice President” and he did not hesitate to openly show his disdain.

One day I met the tea lady in the kitchen making a cup of tea for this gentleman and I told her to give it to me so I could serve him the tea instead. She thought I was crazy, and told me I couldn’t do it because it was “not right” seeing that I was a manager, however I insisted so she gave in.

I placed the tea on a nice silver tray, proceeded to his office and knocked on the door.” Come in!” he grunted. I opened the door, stepped in and with a big smile said, “Good morning Mr. Brown (not his real name) how are you today? I have come to deliver your tea just the way you like it.” I then walked over to his desk, placed the tea on his coaster with a napkin beside it and said, “Enjoy!” then proceeded to leave.

He was so shocked, he could barely get the words “thank you” out of his mouth. Not only was he shocked but so was the company’s chairman who was in a meeting with him and sitting opposite his desk.

That day marked a turning point in the situation because thereon, I could see a progressive change in Mr. Brown’s attitude toward me. It did not happen overnight and there were various other instances where I assisted him when I was not obligated to do so, but it happened, praise the Lord!

Keep in mind that in reaching out to your enemy, there is no guarantee that they will respond to you favorably.

If they do, praise the Lord!………..If they don’t, praise the Lord!

Remember,  it is your obedience to the Word and subsequent promised reward from the Lord that matters most, not their response.

Also, keep I’m mind that how and when the Lord deal’s with your enemy is the Lord’s business, not yours.

Your responsibility is to trust and obey Him and He will deal with them in His way and in His time.

You may never even know how or when He deals with them, but if He allows you to know, be careful not to glory in it and have a “that’s good for you” attitude.

Proverbs 24:17, 18 states:

“Do not gloat when your enemy falls; when he stumbles, do not let your heart rejoice, or the LORD will see and disapprove and turn his wrath away from him.”

The bottom line is that no matter what, God wants us to walk in love toward our enemies and allow Him in His wisdom and justice to deal with them as opposed to our taking the situation into our own hands and responding in a carnal, fleshly, sinful way and bringing reproach to His Name in the process.

So, are you up to the challenge?

By the grace of God, from here on purpose to deal with your workplace enemies God’s way and watch Him work it out.

Be encouraged!


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  1. Right on! We’ve got to learn to ‘kill’ our enemies with LOVE! 😀 Thanks for sharing this. You’re doing an absolutely wonderful job on this blog!

  2. I agree that we don’t treat our enemies badly but what does one do when your help is rejected? When I help this person, it makes the situation worse.

  3. Hi Margaret…sounds like a difficult situation and in all honesty and fairness to you, one that I would really need to know more details about before responding to your question; if you want, you can email me at One thing that does come to mind to ask you is does the person see your help as help or as otherwise? In any event, I encourage you to pray and ask the Lord for more insight into the situation and wisdom in terms of what you can do as you seek to walk in love toward this person. Be encouraged not to be weary in well doing Blessings!….Kim

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