ANGRY, HURT, DISAPPOINTED, BITTER?……..IT’S TIME TO FORGIVE!
Do you struggle with unforgiveness?
Are you carrying a grudge against someone who hurt or wronged you in some way?
Is there someone who used, abused, molested, cheated, neglected, insulted, demeaned, bullied, betrayed, deceived, swindled, stole from or hurt you in some other way that you resent and have ill will towards, that the very thought of makes you angry and want to hurt them and make them pay?
Perhaps a parent, sibling, child, grandparent or an extended family member……..maybe a friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, or ex-spouse, or even a former boss, co-worker, business partner, teacher, neighbor or fellow Believer?
Is there anyone you hold in a place of unforgiveness in your heart?
If so, IT’S TIME TO FORGIVE.
Hold on a minute!
It’s time to do what!
Do you know what they did!
Have you any idea of the hurt, pain, guilt, shame, loss, damage and stress I have undergone and still experience because of this person!
They don’t deserve my forgiveness!
I can’t forgive them!
Listen, even if someone did you extreme wrong and hurt you in an unthinkable way, God still requires that you forgive them, and guess what, whatever He calls for, He empowers us to do.
Isn’t it funny how we can quote scriptures such as “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” and “I am more than a conqueror through Christ Jesus” when it comes to things we want to do, but the truth, presence and power of those same scriptures tend to fade into the recesses of our minds when it comes to doing things we don’t want to do…….Hhhhhmmmm.
Ephesians 4:31-32 states, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” – (Amplified Bible)
Colossians 3:13 states, “Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so must you also [forgive].” – (Amplified Bible)
FORGIVENESS IS NOT A OPTION WITH GOD, IT IS A COMMAND.
IT’S TIME TO FORGIVE.
Before you protest again, here’s an important newsflash. – Everybody’s got issues and some kind of demons to fight, and as a result have hurt or wronged someone at some point in their lives and you are no exception.
I say this neither to justify what happened in your situation nor to minimize the resulting hurt, loss or pain, but to help you put it in a more empathic perspective.
Whenever the desire to judge and condemn someone because of his or her actions arises, it’s important to remember, there’s a story behind every story.
Look at your situation again, but this time, imagine changing places with the person who wronged you. You have their background, personality, life experiences and perhaps generational curses, and they have yours. Given the circumstances, how do you know that you would not have acted just like they did?
Instead of focusing on the shortcomings of the person who hurt or wronged you, take a moment to emotionally step away and focus on your own shortcomings………..Take a moment to remember the times when you hurt or wronged others and needed their forgiveness……….Take a moment to remember the times when you hurt or wronged the Lord and needed His forgiveness…….Selah!
When you or I consider the wrong we have done in our lives and have been forgiven for and the countless times we have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God yet He forgave us, how dare we take a prideful pious stand of unforgiveness toward another? How dare we make a decision not to forgive after all we have been forgiven for?…….Selah!
Not only does the Lord require us to forgive others, He also says that our receiving forgiveness from Him is contingent on our willingness to forgive others.
Matthew 6:14-15 states, “For if you forgive people their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins, leaving them, letting them go, and giving up resentment], your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
But if you do not forgive others their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins, leaving them, letting them go, and giving up resentment], neither will your Father forgive you your trespasses.” – (Amplified Bible)
Mark 11: 25-26 states, “And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him and let it drop (leave it, let it go), in order that your Father Who is in heaven may also forgive you your [own] failings and shortcomings and let them drop.
But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your failings and shortcomings.” – (Amplified Bible)
Luke 6:37 states, “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” – (NIV)
SIMPLY PUT, IF WE FORGIVE OTHERS THEIR WRONGS, GOD WILL FORGIVE US OUR WRONGS, AND IF WE DON’T, HE WON’T……….SOBERING!
If you struggle with unforgiveness, today is your day of deliverance.
IT’S TIME TO FORGIVE.
IT’S TIME TO LET THAT SITUATION GO.
IT’S TIME TO LET THAT PERSON GO.
IT’S TIME TO LET YOURSELF GO.
“He that cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself; for every man has need to be forgiven.”
~ Thomas Fuller ~
“But forgiveness is not an emotion… Forgiveness is an act of will, and the will can function regardless of the temperature of the heart.”
~ Corrie Ten Boom ~
“To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable, because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.”
~ C. S. Lewis ~
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
~ Philip Yancey ~
If you know that the Lord is speaking to you about getting rid of the unforgiveness in your life, do not harden your heart. He is speaking to you because He desires to set you free from that weight and bondage once and for all.
Why don’t you take some time and acknowledge that unforgiveness to yourself and to God as well as the accompanying hurt, pain, disappointment, anger, rage, and desire for vengeance that burn within?
Speak to the Lord candidly. Let Him know how you feel about what happened. Cry if you need to. Get it all out.
Having done this, I challenge you to confess the unforgiveness to the Lord as sin and tell Him that in spite your thoughts and feelings, in obedience to His Word, you are now willing to forgive.
IT’S TIME TO FORGIVE.
Here’s a music video by Kevin Levar that beautifully depicts the power of forgiveness.
If you are willing, I invite you to pray the following prayer of forgiveness:
Father, I come to you in the Name of Jesus. By faith, in obedience to your Word, and as an act of my will, I choose to forgive those who have wronged me. Father I forgive them and release them to You. By your grace, help me to no longer dwell on the situation, but to instead let it go and move on. Heal my mind, body, soul and spirit from all wounds, even those in my innermost parts that I am not aware of. Now that I have forgiven those who wronged me, I thank You for restoring me to a place of forgiveness with You. I thank You for freeing me from the bondage of the sin of unforgiveness and cleansing me of all its effects by your blood in Jesus’ name….Amen.
Believe you have received and walk in your newfound place of freedom.
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