10 TIPS TO HELP PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE AGAINST
ADULTERY / EXTRAMARITAL AFFAIRS – (TIP #7)
Adultery –“voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband”
(Merriam-Webster’s Online Dictionary)
Of late, many Christian women that I either know personally or Christian friends or associates of these women were shattered by the discovery of their husband’s involvement in an extra-marital affair, or multiple affairs.
At some point, a door opened in the marital relationship that led from one thing to the next and now, in some cases after 20-25 years of marriage, the specter of divorce looms menacingly over a covenant relationship that once brought joy and fulfillment to the husband and wife and glory to God.
Many in today’s permissive society consider extramarital sex as acceptable and blameless, however in God’s view, this is not so. His sexual standard for marriage is fidelity, i.e. sexual relations between a man and his wife or a woman and her husband only.
“Thou shalt not commit adultery.”
(Exodus 20:14 – KJV)
(Deuteronomy 5:18 – The Message)
“Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.”
(Hebrews 13:4 – NLT)
“Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.”
(Hebrews 13:4 – The Message)
God’s stand on extramarital sex is clear. He makes absolutely no room for sexual relations with anyone other than your spouse and provides no exceptions to His rule.
In light of this, here is TIP #7 to help protect your marriage against adultery.
Pray with your spouse regularly.
Praying with your spouse on a regular basis is a powerful weapon against adultery because not only does praying together act as a point of spiritual accountability in your marriage both to God and to each other, it also:
- Helps to keep Christ at the center of your marriage
- Strengthens the bond you have with your spouse in the spirit realm
- Helps keep the marital covenant you made before God at the forefront of your mind
- Fosters a deep level of intimacy with your spouse.
Pray for and with your spouse regularly.
Ask your spouse if he/she has any specific issues that he/she would like for you to pray together about; keep in mind that no issue is too big or too small to table together before the Lord.
Pray about any and everything the Lord lays on your heart or your spouse’s heart to pray about whether your marital relationship, children, finances, spiritual life, commitments, challenges, worries, temptations, fears, work, church, sex life, whatever.
Make faith prayer declarations over your marriage. E.g., “In the name of Jesus I decree and declare that my marriage is governed by Christ. My wife/husband is the woman/man that God has called her/him to be. We love, respect and support each other, communicate honestly and openly with each other, meet each other’s needs, and are unified. My desire is for my wife/husband alone and my wife’s/husband’s desire is for me alone. Our sexual relations are pure, mutually fulfilling and our marriage bed is undefiled.”
If you are not comfortable praying out loud, perhaps you can hold hands and pray silently together and once you become more comfortable, move to praying out loud.
Praying for and with your spouse regularly will help protect your marriage against adultery/extra marital affairs.
Spiritual intimacy in a marriage, i.e., a husband and wife connecting and being open with each other through their faith in God and prayer, helps “glue” a marital relationship together and fosters one of the deepest bonds a couple can share.
Unless you have a seared conscience, it would be very difficult to come into the presence of the Lord with your spouse to pray on a regular basis and be involved in an adulterous affair at the same time – Selah.
The prevalence of marital infidelity is sad, disturbing, and extremely grievous to the Holy Spirit of God.
Fellow Christians/Believers in Christ/Kingdom Ambassadors/Saints, by the grace of God, let’s do all we can to protect our marriages and keep them away from the snare of adultery / extramarital affairs and encourage others to do the same all to the honor and glory of God.
Visit again for TIP #8.
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