Adultery –“voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband” 

(Merriam-Webster’s Online Dictionary)

Of late, many Christian women that I either know personally or Christian friends or associates of these women were shattered by the discovery of their husband’s involvement in an extra-marital affair, or multiple affairs.

At some point, a door opened in the marital relationship that led from one thing to the next and now, in some cases after 20-25 years of marriage, the specter of divorce looms menacingly over a covenant relationship that once brought joy and fulfillment to the husband and wife and glory to God.

Many in today’s permissive society consider extramarital sex as acceptable and blameless, however in God’s view, this is not so. His sexual standard for marriage is fidelity, i.e. sexual relations between a man and his wife or a woman and her husband only.

“Thou shalt not commit adultery.”

(Exodus 20:14 – KJV)

“No adultery.”

(Deuteronomy 5:18 – The Message)

 Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.”

(Hebrews 13:4 – NLT)

“Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.”

(Hebrews 13:4 – The Message)

God’s stand on extramarital sex is clear. He makes absolutely no room for sexual relations with anyone other than your spouse and provides no exceptions to His rule.

In light of this, here is TIP #10 to help protect your marriage against adultery.

TIP #10

Watch the company you keep.

Whether or not you want to admit it, who or what you choose to hang around with influences your thoughts, feelings, behavior and ultimately, your character.

 “Do not be mislead: “Bad company corrupts good character”

(I Corinthians 15:33 – NIV, 1984)

To this end, if you want to protect your marriage against adultery, it is better to keep company with other married persons who have the same goal as opposed to those who do not.

Connect with others who value the sanctity of marriage and who want to do all that they can to make their marriage a long-term fulfilling relationship with their spouse “till death us do part”.

In as much as possible, surround yourself with happily married people who don’t believe in fooling around and refrain from keeping company with persons who take their marital covenant lightly and toy around with or openly engage in extra-marital relationships.

Additionally, avoid “keeping company” with articles, books, movies, songs, radio programs, television shows, chat rooms, websites etc., that make light of marriage and/or glorify adultery.

If you “keep company” with media that propagate messages of sexual freedom outside the boundaries your marriage, these values and viewpoints will eventually become embedded in your mind and affect your character, tremendously increasing the likelihood of you engaging in an affair.

Remember, as noted in a earlier post, all adultery begins with a thought so bombarding the soil of your mind with seeds of adultery-supporting words/thoughts will ultimately work against your efforts to remain faithful to your spouse and bring forth the harvest of an affair.

In light of this, it would be more prudent to “keep company” with articles, books, movies, songs, radio programs, television shows, chat rooms, websites etc., that respect, support and strengthen marriage.

“Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers.”

(Psalms 1:1 – NIV, 1984)

Watching the company you keep is an important strategy to help protect your marriage against adultery / extramarital affairs.

The prevalence of marital infidelity is sad, disturbing, and extremely grievous to the Holy Spirit of God.

Fellow Christians/Believers in Christ/Kingdom Ambassadors/Saints, by the grace of God, let’s do all we can to protect our marriages and keep them away from the snare of adultery / extramarital affairs and encourage others to do the same all to the honor and glory of God.

Peace & Blessings!


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