“IT’S NOT OKAY”…….AGAIN
When I sat down to write a new post this morning, as I began praying re: what to write, a post that I wrote in April of 2012 called “It’s Not Okay” kept coming to mind.
This led me to reblog the post because I believe someone needs to read it to either be encouraged themselves to speak up and say “It’s not okay”, or inspired to encourage someone else they know who is dealing with a situation to speak up and say, “it’s not okay”.
The post is below……..be encouraged, be challenged, and be blessed.
IT’S NOT OKAY
(April 14th 2012)
Today I thought about how sometimes there are things that people do or say to us that are not okay with us, but we never say so.
We may want to speak up, need to speak up, or even know in our hearts and spirits that we should speak up, yet against our better judgment, we remain quiet.
I reflected on instances in my life where I either wanted to, needed to or should have said “It’s not okay”, but did not, and on conversations I’ve had with persons facing various situations who confessed that they regrettably chose silence also.
My random musings led to my writing the following poem from the view-point of different people each dealing with different situations, yet voicing the same message that “It’s not okay”.
As you read it, may you be empowered to say “It’s not okay” when you want to, need to, or simply should.
“IT’S NOT OKAY “
FROM A CHILD
It’s not okay for you to tell me I ought to live one way then you live the opposite way, practicing the very things that you tell me not to do simply because you are the adult and I am the child.
It’s not okay for you to abuse me physically, mentally or emotionally simply because I am small and can not defend myself.
FROM A YOUNG GIRL
It’s not okay to sexually harass or pursue me simply because I have the body of woman yet am only a child.
It’s not okay to assume I enjoy your sexual remarks about my body, simply because I do not say anything to you about it.
FROM A TEENAGE BOY
It’s not okay to see me struggle between boyhood and manhood and not help me through this phase in my life simply because I act “out of sorts” at times.
It’s not okay to trivialize what I say is a big issue for me simply because it not a big issue for you.
FROM A YOUNG PERSON
It’s not okay for you to dismiss my voice simply because I am young.
It’s not okay for you to assume I have no stress or pressure simply because I am not an adult.
FROM A SPOUSE
It’s not okay to share your deepest, thoughts, desires, challenges and dreams with your co-worker thereby creating an emotional bond exclusive of me, simply because they are available and easy to talk to.
It’s not okay to remain “friends” with someone who disrespects our marital covenant and commitment to each other as husband and wife simply because you like their company and do not want to hurt their feelings.
FROM A WIFE
It’s not okay for you to cheat on me simply because I no longer have the body of a 20-year-old and the prospect of sex with a younger woman thrills you.
It’s not okay for you to dismiss my need for emotional intimacy simply because you do not see it as being as important as sexual intimacy.
FROM A HUSBAND
It’s not okay to withhold yourself from me sexually leaving my needs unmet then send me out into a world saturated with sexual temptation expecting me to never fall, simply because sex is not a priority for you.
It’s not okay for you to dismiss my need for sexual intimacy simply because you do not see it as being as important as emotional intimacy.
FROM AN OLDER EMPLOYEE
It’s not okay to pressure me into early retirement simply because in your eyes I am old and you feel you have no need for me.
It’s not okay to place limits on my potential without assessing it simply because in your eyes, I am old and incapable.
FROM A HOMEOWNER
It’s not okay to come into my home and steal the material possessions that I worked hard for simply because you want them and don’t have them.
It’s not okay to have loud parties into the wee hours of the morning every weekend, preventing me, my family and our neighbors from resting simply because you want to.
FROM A MAN OF GOD
It’s not okay for you to come into the house of God dressed so sensually that your “stuff” is in my face making it hard for me to worship and not think lustful thoughts simply because you think it’s “fashionable”.
It’s not okay to “dismiss” my masculinity and strength simply because I cry when touched by the Spirit of God.
FROM A WOMAN OF GOD
It’s not okay for you to expect me to “dumb down” spiritually simply because the anointing of God on my life intimidates you.
It’s not okay to assume I don’t need or want your leadership simply because you perceive me as strong.
FROM AN EMPLOYER
It’s not okay for you to steal from me through excessive personal calls, web surfing, email and socializing in the workplace simply because I do not track your every move.
It’s not okay to come to work and do just enough to get by then expect a raise simply because of inflation or poor money management.
FROM A VICTIM OF BULLYING
It is not okay to bully me simply because I am different from you.
It’s not okay to take advantage of me simply because you minimize me in your eyes.
FROM A MEMBER OF THE GENERAL PUBLIC
It’s not okay to drive around with your profanity-laced music blasting simply because you want it that way or assume I want to hear it too.
It’s not okay to walk around with your pants dropping down and your underwear exposed simply because you think it is “cool”.
FROM A PERSON IN A RELATIONSHIP
It’s not okay for you to stand by my side in the good and easy times then push me away simply because times are more difficult.
It’s not okay to take all the time and not give simply because I have a generous, easy-going nature.
FROM A BELIEVER IN CHRIST
It’s not okay to condemn me simply because you do not understand what God is doing in my life.
It’s not okay to put down my spirituality simply because I worship God in Spirit and in truth more differently than you do.
FROM ALL WHO DARE NOT SPEAK UP
TODAY WE SAY
“IT’S NOT OKAY”
Father, please grant us the grace, wisdom and boldness to speak up when certain things are not okay and we know in our hearts by your Spirit that we need to say so in Jesus’ Name……..Amen.
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