10 TIPS TO HELP PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE AGAINST
ADULTERY / EXTRAMARITAL AFFAIRS – (TIP #8)
Adultery –“voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband”
(Merriam-Webster’s Online Dictionary)
Of late, many Christian women that I either know personally or Christian friends or associates of these women were shattered by the discovery of their husband’s involvement in an extra-marital affair, or multiple affairs.
At some point, a door opened in the marital relationship that led from one thing to the next and now, in some cases after 20-25 years of marriage, the specter of divorce looms menacingly over a covenant relationship that once brought joy and fulfillment to the husband and wife and glory to God.
Many in today’s permissive society consider extramarital sex as acceptable and blameless, however in God’s view, this is not so. His sexual standard for marriage is fidelity, i.e. sexual relations between a man and his wife or a woman and her husband only.
“Thou shalt not commit adultery.”
(Exodus 20:14 – KJV)
(Deuteronomy 5:18 – The Message)
“Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.”
(Hebrews 13:4 – NLT)
“Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.”
(Hebrews 13:4 – The Message)
God’s stand on extramarital sex is clear. He makes absolutely no room for sexual relations with anyone other than your spouse and provides no exceptions to His rule.
In light of this, here is TIP #8 to help protect your marriage against adultery.
Guard Your Thought Life
No one suddenly decides to have an extramarital affair.
A spouse who commits adultery has been unfaithful in his or her heart and mind long before he or she begins an affair.
All adultery begins in the mind with a thought so this is why guarding your thought life is an important strategy to help protect your marriage against adultery.
Entertaining, nurturing and or meditating on lustful thoughts about someone other than your spouse or on the prospect of an affair will increase the likelihood that you engage in an adulterous relationship.
Instead, cast those thoughts down and focus your mind on what the Word of God says about marriage and adultery and on thoughts that will kill lustful desires, strengthen your spirit man and increase your propensity to remain faithful to your spouse.
“The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
(II Corinthians 10:4, 5 – NIV, 1984)
“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things”
(Philippians 4:8 – NIV, 1984)
When faced with the prospect of an adulterous relationship, the first, best and most powerful line of defense you have is in your mind.
If you take your mind off of what the Word of God says about adultery and focus your thoughts on what you believe would be the pleasurable aspects of an extramarital relationship, then you will automatically increase the likelihood that you will cheat on your spouse.
Conversely, if you set your mind on what the Word of God has to say about adultery and your thoughts on the damaging aspects of an extramarital relationship, then you automatically decrease the likelihood that you will cheat on your spouse.
So rather than focusing on thoughts that will draw you toward committing this sin, instead focus your thoughts on what will draw you toward God and away from committing it.
Focus them on how the Word condemns such a relationship, on God’s love for you and Christ’s sacrifice on the cross for you, on the responsibility that you have to God when it comes to your blood bought body, and on the inevitable damage that such a relationship would bring to you, your spouse, your natural and spiritual family and most of all, your relationship with God.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
(Proverbs 4:23 – NIV).
Remember, nobody wakes up one day and suddenly decides to have an extramarital affair.
Whatever you focus on in your mind becomes magnified in your life; what you behold, you become.
All adultery begins in the mind so help protect your marriage against adultery by vigilantly guarding your thought life.
The prevalence of marital infidelity is sad, disturbing, and extremely grievous to the Holy Spirit of God.
Fellow Christians/Believers in Christ/Kingdom Ambassadors/Saints, by the grace of God, let’s do all we can to protect our marriages and keep them away from the snare of adultery / extramarital affairs and encourage others to do the same all to the honor and glory of God.
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