FIVE “SANITY-KEEPING” STRATEGIES FOR WIVES

FIVE “SANITY-KEEPING” STRATEGIES FOR WIVES

"TOGETHER FOREVER"

“TOGETHER FOREVER – BY GOD’S GRACE”

 
Whenever a man and woman come together in holy matrimony, there is an intermeshing of two distinct bodies, minds, souls, spirits, families, histories, experiences, personalities, worldviews, expectations, and imperfections so conflict is inevitable at some point in the union.

This stands true whether the individuals are Believers in Christ or not……can I get a witness???…okay, I won’t get “churchy” on you (smile!).

Having recently celebrated 25 years of marriage, I’m blessed to be able to say that the canvas of my matrimonial relationship is painted with more blue skies than gray, more mountains than valleys, and more roses than thorns, nevertheless, like many other Christian women, I’ve faced my share of marital challenges.

The following are five “sanity-keeping” strategies that I’ve found helpful in my experience as a married Christian woman. 

I shared them previously in April of 2011 and felt a need to share them again today for someone…….if that’s you, my prayer is that you’ll find them helpful too.

1) Recognize and accept that your husband is not perfect.

This may come as a great surprise to you, but your husband is not the only one in your marital relationship that is not perfect, neither are you…..ouch!

It’s important to accept and recognize that the same way you’re on a life-long journey of learning, growth, and development and are therefore likely to make some mistakes or “not so good” decisions at some point, so is your husband.

Remembering this will help you to have more patience, compassion, and understanding when it comes to dealing with his shortcomings, weaknesses, and failures.

2) Look to God as your source, not your husband.

Whatever your needs, whether mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, or financial, practice going to God first about how they can be met as opposed to automatically looking to your husband to meet them.

Ask God for wisdom and direction as to how best to deal with your needs, and know that at times, He may not give you the liberty of voicing them to your husband, but may instead require you to quietly wait on Him to intervene and meet them in His way and His time.

Also, remember that by divine design, your husband will never be able to meet all of your needs so be careful not to fall into the trap of placing unreasonable demands on him, i.e., expecting him to give you what only God can give, or be to you who only God can be.

3) Don’t try to change your husband.

Although they may deny it, many Christian women secretly take on the role of “Holy Ghost Jr.” and set out to change their husbands into the man that they believe he should be.

Woman of God, do yourself and your husband a favor and “don’t go there”.

No matter what you may think, feel, or believe, the truth of the matter is that you can not change your husband, only God can, so you may as well not even try.

Setting out to change your husband is an exercise in frustration and futility because changing a person is a role reserved by God for the Holy Spirit to be done in His way and His time.

Also, be aware that even when your husband is in “error” or “at fault”, sometimes God may not change him right away, but may instead require that you adjust or change first instead.

From your view, this may not be pleasant, or even seem fair, but God is God so we must trust Him and His infinite wisdom to work, in and through our situations as He knows is best.

4) No matter what your husband does, forgive him.

Let’s face it, whether intentionally or unintentionally, sometimes husbands say and do some very hurtful and even harmful things.

When faced with this kind of situation, in spite of the temptation and or desire to retaliate or hold bitterness, anger, and resentment toward your husband, you need to forgive him.

What??????

Hold on a minute!!!!!

Do you know what he did to me?

Do you know what he said to me?

Do you know what he told others about me?

Look at how much I am suffering!

And I must forgive him?

You have got to be out of your mind!!!

Yes, I am out of my mind.

I am out of my fleshly mind because my fleshly mind would tell you to retaliate and seek some type of revenge, to find a way to as Bahamians say, “do him in!”, but that is not the way of the Kingdom; it is not the mind of Christ.

Matthew 6:14, 15 states, “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” (New Living Translation)

Sobering!

No one on the face of this earth, including your husband, is worth influencing you to the point where you find yourself walking in a place of unforgiveness with God…….absolutely no one! Selah!

No matter what we face within our marriages, as Christian wives, it is critical that we diligently guard our hearts from  harboring a spirit of unforgiveness towards our husbands.

If ever you find it difficult to forgive your husband, stop and think about the many times you sinned against God and He in His mercy forgave you………..I think that should help.

5) Never love your husband more than you love God.

As Christian women, while it is Biblically correct to obey our husbands, we’re not to do so if what our husband desires is in opposition to what God requires.

God measures our love for Him by our obedience to Him so if we do what our husband desires when it is in opposition to what God requires, we show that we love our husbands more than we love God and this is never right.

God is a jealous God and He makes it emphatically clear in His Word that we are to have no other gods before him.

This means that no matter how “good” your husband may be he should never have first place in your life.

Love your husband, but never allow him to sit on the seat of the throne of your heart, that place is reserved for God alone.

If you ever allow your husband to become an idol in your heart, you can rest assured that at some point, God will take action to correct the situation.

Well, those are five “sanity-saving” strategies that I have found helpful in my experience as a married Christian woman….I hope you found them helpful too.

Be encouraged!

Kim

 

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FLASHBACK FRIDAY……WHO AM I?

FLASHBACK FRIDAY…….WHO AM I?

I bought my first Point of Grace album, “Steady On “, when it was released back in 1998 and the song that ministered to me the most,  was called “Who Am I?”.

“Who Am I?” has been in my spirit all week so I just decided to post it.

When I think of God and who He is…..when I think of the eternal, multifaceted, glorious, awesome, wise, powerful, splendid, expansive, gracious, loving, magnificence of His being…….and then I think of me and who I am, it totally blows me away that He would want a relationship with me….who am I?

Be encouraged and be blessed as you listen.

Kim

“WHO AM I?” – POINT OF GRACE

LYRICS

Over time You’ve healed so much in me,
And I am living proof.
That although my darkest hour had come,
Your light could still shine through.
Though at times it’s just enought to cast,
A shadow on the wall.
I am grateful that you’ve shined your light on me at all.

[CHORUS]
Who Am I,
That you would love me so gently?
Who Am I,
That you would recognize my name?
Who Am I,
That you would speak to me so softly?
Conversation with the Lord most high.
Who Am I?

Oh Amazing Grace how sweet the sound,
That saved a wretch like me.
I once was lost,
But now am found.
Was blind,
But now I see.
And the more I sing that sweet old song,
The more I understand.
That I do not comprehend this love that’s coming from your hand.

[REPEAT CHORUS]

Grace, grace.
God’s grace.
Grace that will pardon, and cleanse within.
Grace, grace.
God’s great grace.
Grace that is greater than all my sin.

[REPEAT CHORUS]

Lord, Who Am I?
Who Am I?
Lord Who Am I?
Who Am I?
Who Am I?

 

“When I consider thy heavens, the work of thy fingers, the moon and the stars, which thou hast ordained;

What is man, that thou art mindful of him? and the son of man, that thou visitest him?”

(Psalms 8:3-4 – KJV)

 

“When I look at the night sky and see the work of your fingers—
the moon and the stars you set in place—
what are mere mortals that you should think about them,
human beings that you should care for them?”

(Psalms 8:3-4 – NLT)

 

“I look up at your macro-skies, dark and enormous,
your handmade sky-jewelry,
Moon and stars mounted in their settings.
Then I look at my micro-self and wonder,
Why do you bother with us?
Why take a second look our way?”

(Psalms 8:3-4 – The Message Bible)

 

SELAH!

 

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DO YOU REALLY LOVE THE LORD?

DO YOU REALLY LOVE THE LORD?

“I LOVE YOU LORD” – MARANATHA SINGERS

 

DO YOU LOVE THE LORD?

Of course I love the Lord!

What do you mean if I love the Lord?

What kind of question is that?

I’m a Christian right!

But wait, before you answer or comment, there is a question that needs to be answered first – What does it mean to love the Lord?

Does it mean to have a warm affectionate connected feeling toward the Lord?

Does it mean to sing with your whole heart songs about loving the Lord?

Does it mean to verbally say “Lord I love you”?

Check out the below scriptures and see what Jesus had to say on this matter.

“If ye love me, keep my commandments.”

(John 14:15 – KJV)

“If you [really] love Me, you will keep (obey) My commands.”

(John 14:15 – Amplified Bible)

__________

“He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him.”

(John 14:21 – KJV)

“The person who has My commands and keeps them is the one who [really] loves Me; and whoever [really] loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I [too] will love him and will show (reveal, manifest) Myself to him. [I will let Myself be clearly seen by him and make Myself real to him.]”

(John 14:21 – Amplified Bible)

__________

“Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him.

He that loveth me not keepeth not my sayings: and the word which ye hear is not mine, but the Father’s which sent me.”

(John 14:23-24 – KJV)

“Jesus answered, If a person [really] loves Me, he will keep My word [obey My teaching]; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home (abode, special dwelling place) with him.
Anyone who does not [really] love Me does not observe and obey My teaching. And the teaching which you hear and heed is not Mine, but [comes] from the Father Who sent Me.”

(John 14:23-24 – KJV)

__________

The scripture is clear that the Lord’s gauge of our love for Him is our obedience to Him.

From Jesus’s perspective, the way that we show that we love Him is by obeying His teachings and His commandments.

The word “love” in each of these scripture verses is the Greek word “agapao” which Strong’s Concordance tells us is to love in a social or moral sense, embracing especially the judgment and deliberate assent of the will as a matter of principle, duty and propriety; in other words; it’s chiefly a love of the head with corresponding willful actions and not of the heart or feelings and affections. (Source – Strong’s Concordance on E-Sword)

The Lord measures our love for Him by our obedience to Him, not by our being a friend to, fond of, having and/or expressing affection for or sentimental personal attachment to Him.

That is another kind of love, which Strong’s concordance tells us is “phileo” love and the love God desires, the “agapao” love is much more than that.

So now that you know how the Lord assess our love for Him, again I ask, DO YOU LOVE THE LORD?

Do you choose to obey His teachings and commands or do you choose to live life as you please, doing what you want to do, making your own decisions and just have emotional attachment and “warm fuzzy feelings” toward Him and sing love songs to Him?

When we obey the commands and teachings of the Lord, He considers that as love for Him.

“For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous.”

(I John 5:3 – KJV)

“For the [true] love of God is this: that we do His commands [keep His ordinances and are mindful of His precepts and teaching]. And these orders of His are not irksome (burdensome, oppressive, or grievous).”

(I John 5:3 – Amplified Bible)

SELAH!

DO YOU LOVE THE LORD?

In John 21:15-17, Jesus asked Peter 3 times if he loved Him, and each after time Peter told the Lord yes, he loved Him, Jesus said “then” and gave Peter a command….”then feed my lambs”, “then feed my sheep”, “then feed my sheep”.

In essence, Jesus was saying to Peter, if you love me, then keep my command to you.

What has the Lord been commanding you to do over the past few years?

What has the Lord been commanding you to do over the past few months?

What has the Lord been commanding you to do over the past few weeks?

What has the Lord been commanding you to do over the past few days?

What is the Lord commanding you to do today?

Are you going to obey Him and thereby prove your love for Him on His terms, the love that He really desires and that pleases Him, or disobey Him and show “love” on your terms, with lip service and emotional endearment?

If you love Him, I challenge you to show it to Him by keeping His written and spoken commandments to you.

 “I’LL OBEY” – DERRICK MONK 

DO YOU REALLY LOVE THE LORD?

Lord give us the willingness and grace to walk in obedience to what you tell us to do and thereby show our love for you.

SELAH!

Kim

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IT’S TIME TO SHARE MY SECRET…….

IT’S TIME TO SHARE MY SECRET ………

 

HE'S GOT MY HEART ON LOCK

I CONFESS HE’S GOT MY HEART 

 

Today is my day to share my secret…….to come out of the closet…..to open up.

I’m a kept woman.

I’m deeply involved with someone who is not my husband and I am unashamedly proud of it.

Why?

Because……

He loves me so much it blows my mind….

He knows everything about me, the good, the bad, and the ugly yet still wants to be with me…..

He cares about every aspect of my life and well-being…..

He is patient, kind, gentle, strong, forgiving, merciful and gracious…..

He defends and protects me and doesn’t like people trying to harm or mess with me…..

He’s a warrior and fears nothing or no one…..

He covers me and makes me feel safe and secure…..

He never wants me to worry about anything…..

He takes care of me whenever I get sick and helps be get well…..

He encourages me and lifts my spirits when I’m down…..

He knows everything I need and makes sure I have it, and often gives me gifts just because…..

He is wise and readily gives me sound advice no matter the situation…..

He lovingly corrects me when I’m wrong and alerts me to danger ahead of time…..

He has excellent morals and standards and never violates them…..

His character is impeccable…..

He is totally reliable and dependable and never disappoints or let’s me down…..

He never lies or tries to deceive me…..

He honors our relationship and is faithful and committed to it…..

He loves when we spend uninterrupted time together alone and wants to do it regularly…..

He loves when I talk openly about everything and can handle anything I say…..

He is always there for me 24/7 and promised never to walk out on me…..

He fills me with unspeakable joy…..

Most of all, He suffered and died for me and came back to life so we can be together forever…..

He is indescribably, unquestionably, amazing…..

The way He keeps me, I’d be a fool to leave Him.

 

JESUS LOVER OF MY SOUL

 

So now you know my secret.

I’m a kept woman and unashamedly proud of it.

And for the record, I did not pursue Him to start this relationship, He pursued me.

Selah!

Kim

 

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SOMEONE NEEDS TO KNOW THIS RIGHT NOW………

SOMEONE NEEDS TO KNOW THIS RIGHT NOW…….

GOD LOVES YOU!

GOD LOVES YOU!

 

 

GOD LOVES YOU

GOD, LOVES YOU

GOD LOVES, YOU

 

“For I am convinced [and continue to be convinced—beyond any doubt] that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present and threatening, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the [unlimited] love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

(Romans 8:38-39 – Amplified Bible)

 

GOD LOVES YOU

GOD, LOVES YOU

GOD LOVES, YOU

 

“THE LOVE OF GOD”

 

GOD LOVES YOU

GOD, LOVES YOU

GOD LOVES, YOU

 

SELAH!

 

Receive and rest in His love!

Be encouraged,

Kim

 

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WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE………

WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE………..

WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE, ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!

WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE, ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!

 

When you love someone, they become a priority in your life.

Is God a priority in your life?

When you love someone, you spend time with them and enjoy their presence.

Do you spend time with God and enjoy His presence?

When you love someone, you spend time talking with them.

Do you spend time talking with God?

When you love someone, you make it a point to get to know them better?

Do you make it a point get to know God better?

When you love someone, you find out what pleases them and seek to do those things.

Do you find out what pleases God and seek to do those things?

When you love someone you’re happy to let others know about your relationship with them?

Are you happy to let others know about your relationship with God?

 

SELAH!

 

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WHAT’S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT

WHAT’S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT?

GOD'S LOVE FOR YOU IS MATCHLESS

WHAT’S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT?

 

Years ago, Tina Turner sang a popular song, and its main lyrics asked the question,

“WHAT’S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT?”

When we look at all the “bright shiny objects” available and used in ministry today and the often not so “bright shiny results”, I ask, “Could Love Be The Missing Link?

When it comes to operating in the Kingdom of God and doing the work of the ministry, I believe love has far more to do with it than we realize or care to admit.

Here’s a post I wrote in May of 2010 which I believe still speaks to this issue today.

Be challenged…….be blessed!

 

COULD LOVE BE THE MISSING LINK?

What are you believing God for that has not happened yet?………..salvation for a lost loved one, healing in your body, a needed financial breakthrough for a friend, an increased understanding of the Word, an expansion in your ministry, revelation of God’s plan and purpose for your life?

“Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.”

(Hebrews 11:1 – NIV)

What do you have faith in God to do, see, or receive for yourself or someone else but there is no manifestation up to this point?

Perhaps what you desire is not within God’s will.

Maybe it is simply not yet time for manifestation.

Or, could it be that there is a lack of love somewhere in the equation……….. could love be the missing link?

“For in Jesus Christ neither circumcision availeth any thing, nor uncircumcision; but faith which worketh by love.”

(Galatians 5:6 – KJV)

Galatians 5:6 (KJV) tells us that faith works by love.

According to Strong’s Concordance, the Greek word for worketh is “energeō”, which is pronounced “en-erg-eh’-o” and it means, “to be active, efficient: – do, (be) effectual (fervent), be mighty in, shew forth self, work (effectually in).”

So then, faith is active, efficient, energized, and effectual, shows itself forth and works effectually in or by love.

Hhhhmmmm!…………..Considering this scripture, could love be the missing link?

Could a lack of love on your part toward God, yourself and/or others be why there has not yet been a manifestation of your faith?

How’s your love walk towards God?

Before you answer that, let’s look at what the Word has to say about how God expects us to prove our love toward Him.

In John 14:15, Jesus states:-

“If you [really] love Me, you will keep (obey) My commands.”

(John 14:15 – Amplified Bible)

In I John 5:3 it is written:-

“For the [true] love of God is this: that we do His commands [keep His ordinances and are mindful of His precepts and teaching]. And these orders of His are not irksome (burdensome, oppressive, or grievous).”

(1 John 5:3 – Amplified Bible)

God measures our love towards Him by our obedience to Him and not by any warm, fuzzy, emotions, or good feelings that we may experience when we think of who He is and what He has done for us.

So I ask again, how is your love walk toward God?

Do you sincerely and earnestly seek to know and do His will each day of your life in each situation that you encounter?

To demonstrate our love for God we must obey Him and to obey Him, we must know what He requires of us through the Word and His Holy Spirit.

Faith works by love.

So what about your love walk toward others, how’s that?

Could a lack of love on your part toward others be why there has not yet been a manifestation of your faith?

I Corinthians chapter 13, verses 4-6 describes the love we are to have toward others.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

(1 Corinthians 13:4-6 – NIV)

As you can see from this scripture, this love is action-based and not emotion-based. It is a love that we make a conscious decision to show in spite of how we feel. It is agape, the God-kind of love.

How’s your love walk toward those for whom you are praying?

Are you demonstrating this agape love, this God-kind of love toward the people whose salvation or deliverance you are believing God for?

Is your attitude and behavior toward them marked by love, kindness and patience, or by impatience, anger, rudeness and an arrogant spirit of condescending boastful pride in your own salvation?

“Love means doing what God has commanded us, and he has commanded us to love one another, just as you heard from the beginning.”

(2 John 1:6 – NLT)

Faith works by love.

If you find that you lack love toward others, maybe it’s because you do not truly love yourself.

In Matthew 22:36-40 when asked which is the greatest or the most important commandment in the law, Jesus replied:-

“You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.”

(Matthew 22:37-40 – NLT)

Jesus said we are to love our neighbors as ourselves.

How’s your love walk toward yourself?

Do you have the God-kind of love toward yourself?

Are you patient with and kind to yourself or impatient and mean?

Are you easily angered with and hold grudges and secret hatred toward yourself or are you merciful and forgiving toward yourself?

If we do not have Godly love for ourselves, it is not then understandable why we may lack such love toward others?

Faith works by love.

Could love be the missing link in our assemblies?

Could a general lack of obedience to God and a general lack of genuine love toward each other in the Body of Christ be a key reason why we have so much expressed faith yet so little manifested results?

Isn’t it ironic how so often we as Saints can willfully disobey God, thereby not walking in love toward Him, not repent, yet expect our faith to work and produce great results in our lives and the lives of others?

Isn’t it ironic how so often we pray in faith for persons, believing God for a breakthrough, yet harbor envy, jealousy, anger, unforgiveness, bitterness, offense and grudges toward these same people, i.e., not walk in love toward them, yet expect our faith to work and produce great manifestation?

In Matthew 24:12, Jesus warns that one of the signs of the last days is that because iniquity, i.e., lawlessness and wickedness will abound, the love of many will wax cold.

Since faith works by love, as Kingdom Ambassadors, you and I need to make it a priority to guard our hearts to ensure that we are not counted among those whose love waxes cold because it will hinder the working of our faith and subsequently the outward manifestation of the Kingdom to the honor and glory of God.

Faith works by love.

So my fellow Ambassadors, today if you are believing God for something, in addition to checking to see if your desires are in line with God’s will, and checking with the Lord about His timing, I urge you to check your love walk too.

Take some time to ask the Holy Spirit to show you where you are at in regard to your love for God, love for yourself and love for others, and ask Him to help you make any needed adjustments.

According to Romans 5:5, the Holy Spirit has already poured the love of God into our hearts, so the issue is not whether or not the love is there, it is a matter of by the grace of God, making a decision to die to self and practice walking in it.

Man of God, Woman of God, let’s not let love be the missing link.

 

 

Shalom!

Kim

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JESUS HAIKU

JESUS HAIKU

"NEVER FORGET GOD'S LOVE FOR YOU"

“NEVER FORGET GOD’S LOVE FOR YOU”

 

Jesus

Geez…us?

Jesus

 

“When we were utterly helpless, Christ came at just the right time and died for us sinners. 

Now, most people would not be willing to die for an upright person, though someone might perhaps be willing to die for a person who is especially good. 

But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners. 

And since we have been made right in God’s sight by the blood of Christ, he will certainly save us from God’s condemnation. 

For since our friendship with God was restored by the death of his Son while we were still his enemies, we will certainly be saved through the life of his Son.

So now we can rejoice in our wonderful new relationship with God because our Lord Jesus Christ has made us friends of God.”

Romans 8:6-11 – NLT

 

Jesus

Geez…us?

Jesus

 

SELAH!

 

“JUST FOR ME” – BY DONNIE MCCLURKIN

 

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DO YOU LOVE THE LORD?

DO YOU LOVE THE LORD?

 

“I LOVE YOU LORD” – MARANATHA SINGERS

 

DO YOU LOVE THE LORD?

Of course I love the Lord!

What do you mean if I love the Lord?

What kind of question is that?

I’m a Christian right!

But wait, before you answer or comment, there is a  question that needs to be answered first – What does it mean to love the Lord?

Does it mean to have a warm affectionate connected feeling toward the Lord?

Does it mean to sing with your whole heart songs about loving the Lord?

Does it mean to verbally say “Lord I love you”?

Check out the below scriptures and see what Jesus had to say on this matter.

 

“If ye love me, keep my commandments.”

(John 14:15 – KJV)

“If you [really] love Me, you will keep (obey) My commands.”

(John 14:15 – Amplified Bible)

__________

“He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him.”

(John 14:21 – KJV)

The person who has My commands and keeps them is the one who [really] loves Me; and whoever [really] loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I [too] will love him and will show (reveal, manifest) Myself to him. [I will let Myself be clearly seen by him and make Myself real to him.]

(John 14:21 – Amplified Bible)

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“Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him.

He that loveth me not keepeth not my sayings: and the word which ye hear is not mine, but the Father’s which sent me.”

(John 14:23-24 – KJV)

“Jesus answered, If a person [really] loves Me, he will keep My word [obey My teaching]; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home (abode, special dwelling place) with him.
Anyone who does not [really] love Me does not observe and obey My teaching. And the teaching which you hear and heed is not Mine, but [comes] from the Father Who sent Me.”

(John 14:23-24 – KJV)

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The scripture is clear that the Lord’s gauge of our love for Him is our obedience to Him.

From Jesus’s perspective, the way that we show that we love Him is by obeying His teachings and His commandments.

The word “love” in each of these scripture verses is the Greek word “agapao” which Strong’s Concordance tells us is to love in a social or moral sense, embracing especially the judgment and deliberate assent of the will as a matter of principle, duty and propriety; in other words; it’s chiefly a love of the head with corresponding willful actions and not of the heart or feelings and affections. (Source – Strong’s Concordance on E-Sword)

The Lord measures our love for Him by our obedience to Him, not by our being a friend to, fond of, having and/or expressing affection for or sentimental personal attachment to Him.

That is another kind of love, which Strong’s concordance tells us is “phileo” love and the love God desires, the “agapao” love is much more than that.

So now that you know how the Lord assess our love for Him, again I ask,  DO YOU LOVE THE LORD?

Do you choose to obey His teachings and commands or do you choose to live life as you please, doing what you want to do, making your own decisions and just have emotional attachment and “warm fuzzy feelings” toward Him and sing love songs to Him?

When we obey the commands and teachings of the Lord, He considers that as love for Him.

“For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous.”

(I John 5:3 – KJV)

“For the [true] love of God is this: that we do His commands [keep His ordinances and are mindful of His precepts and teaching]. And these orders of His are not irksome (burdensome, oppressive, or grievous).”

(I John 5:3 – Amplified Bible)

SELAH!

DO YOU LOVE THE LORD?

In John 21:15-17, Jesus asked Peter 3 times if he loved Him, and each after time Peter told the Lord yes, he loved Him, Jesus said “then” and gave Peter a command….”then feed my lambs”, “then feed my sheep”, “then feed my sheep”.

In essence, Jesus was saying to Peter, if you love me, then keep my command to you.

What has the Lord been commanding you to do over the past few years?

What has the Lord been commanding you to do over the past few months?

What has the Lord been commanding you to do over the past few weeks?

What has the Lord been commanding you to do over the past few days?

What is the Lord commanding you to do today?

Are you going to obey Him and thereby prove your love for Him on His terms, the love that He really desires and that pleases Him, or disobey Him and show “love” on your terms, with lip service and emotional endearment?

If you love Him, I challenge you to show it to Him by keeping His written and spoken commandments to you.

DO YOU LOVE THE LORD?

Lord give us the willingness and grace to walk in obedience to what you tell us to do and thereby show our love for you. 

SELAH!

Kim

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THERE’S A STORY BEHIND EVERY STORY

THERE’S A STORY BEHIND EVERY STORY

WHAT'S REALLY GOING ON?

WHAT’S REALLY GOING ON?

As Believers, many times we find it so easy to judge others when they behave rude, “out of sorts”, disgusting, touchy, or in some other negative, distasteful or sinful way.

There’s a story behind every story.

We find it so easy to look at the person’s attitude and/or behavior and piously think and/or say:-

“How could they do that?”

“How could they say that?”

“How could they act like that?”

“I would never do that!”

“I would never say that!”

“I would never act like that!”

We think these pious thoughts and/or speak these pious words forgetting the times prior to our being saved, and even since being saved, when we behaved rude, “out of sorts”, disgusting, touchy, or in some other negative, distasteful or sinful way.

There’s a story behind every story.

We think these pious thoughts and/or speak these pious words forgetting that we are not perfect and have not finished living yet so there is no guarantee that we will not display some of those same attitudes and/behaviors in the future, and if we do act in an appropriate or God-pleasing way, it is only because of God’s grace at work in our lives.

There’s a story behind every story.

We think these pious thoughts and/or speak these pious words without even wondering why the person is acting in this way and considering that perhaps they are under pressure or battling with some unknown negative situation.

There’s a story behind every story.

The sad part about it is that if the Holy Spirit were to shine God’s revelatory light on our hearts when we are having such thoughts or speaking such words, to our shame He would find self-righteousness, pride, scorn, disgust, and condemnation instead of mercy, love, humility, concern, empathy, and compassion……Saints, in God’s eyes, this is simply not right.

There’s a story behind every story.

Every person that we encounter in life is a complex combination of factors that influence their attitudes and behaviors.

There’s a story behind every story.

There are genetic factors, personality factors, cultural factors, childhood experiences, family experiences, school experiences, work experiences, friendship experiences, relationship experiences, marriage experiences, health experiences, spiritual experiences, verbal, mental, emotional, physical and/or sexual abuse, physical, mental and/or emotional pain, pressures, feelings of insecurity, unworthiness, rejection, anger, fear, and the sin nature, just to name a few.

There’s a story behind every story.

Many times the rude, “out of sorts”, disgusting, touchy, negative, distasteful or sinful attitudes and behaviors that we see displayed by a person are really a manifestation or byproduct of the story behind their story, i.e., a manifestation or byproduct of a combination of these factors, a manifestation or byproduct of what is behind what you see or experience from them.

There’s a story behind every story.

When considering this, and the fact that we too have a story behind our story, can we really justify judging them so harshly?

As Kingdom Ambassadors and Believers in Jesus Christ, the next time we encounter a person who is behaving “out of sorts”, rude, disgusting, or in some negative, distasteful or sinful way, instead of mentally or verbally flying to a state of pious condemning judgment, let’s pause to remember that there is a story behind their story and pray.

Let’s ask the Lord to help us see the person through His eyes, to help us see beyond their attitude and behavior to seeing a soul for whom He died.

Let’s ask Him to help us see beyond their attitude and behavior to seeing a person who has a life story that may be affecting the way he/she thinks, speaks and acts.

Let’s ask Him to help us see beyond their attitude and behavior to seeing a person who may be hurting and in need of love, understanding, compassion, salvation, healing or deliverance.

Let’s ask Him to bless the person and minister to them at their point of need.

Let’s ask Him if there is anything He wants us to say to or do for the person that would help or encourage them in some way.

We live in an era where stress, problems and “short fuses” abound, and as time winds down, so will persons who behave rude, “out of sorts”, disgusting, touchy, or in some other negative, distasteful or sinful way.

By the grace of God let’s train ourselves to not resort to harsh judgment in our thoughts and speech, but to instead, have a posture of love, concern and compassion, remembering that there is a story behind each person’s story.

There’s a story behind every story.

What’s the story behind your story?

Selah!

I wrote this post in May of 2010 and felt impressed to re-blog it today.

I hope it blessed you.

I hope it challenged you.

Be encouraged!

 

Kim

 

“The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love.”

(Psalm 103:8 – NIV)

“Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. 

It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].

It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.

Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].”

(I Corinthians 13:4-7 – Amplified Bible)

“For God so greatly loved and dearly prized the world that He [even] gave up His only begotten (unique) Son, so that whoever believes in (trusts in, clings to, relies on) Him shall not perish (come to destruction, be lost) but have eternal (everlasting) life. 

For God did not send the Son into the world in order to judge (to reject, to condemn, to pass sentence on) the world, but that the world might find salvation and be made safe and sound through Him.”

(John 3:16, 17 – Amplified Bible)

 

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