THE SIN-SATIONAL POWER OF LUST

THE SIN-SATIONAL POWER OF LUST

LUST IS POWERFUL

 LUST IS POWERFUL

LUST – “Intense or unbridled sexual desire” 

(Source – Merriam-Webster Online at www.Merriam-Webster.com)

 

Lust moved from his heart to his head,

Then he played with the thoughts in his mind,

Next he’s acted it out in somebody’s bed

To the plan of the enemy blind.

 

He flirted boldly with the flesh,

He dabbled knowingly in raw sin,

He tasted “sweet” forbidden waters,

And now the claws are in.

 

He got up and covered his tracks,

He built up an inner defense,

He told himself he’d never go back

Removed tell-tale evidence.

 

He said “self now you’ve got to be smart”,

He said “self now you’ve got to be slick”,

He said “self now you’ve got to lie from the start”

If anyone suspects you of this.

 

But what’s unseen is a sinister tie,

His soul with hers has become one,

From this fling he thought he’d easily fly

But it’s much harder to get undone.

 

She wields her power like a sword

And down he goes again,

She uses him like a toy when bored

No love, no care, no pain.

 

She blazes in and out his life

Like a fiery shooting comet,

His self-control lost at her beck and call

He returns like a dog to its vomit.

 

He thinks, what have I done,

I didn’t bargain for all of this,

My wife, my kids, my reputation

It’s all now at high risk.

 

In panic he begs her their “secret” to hide

She smiles and laughs silently with scorn,

Then calls up her friends in them to “confide”

Now the fire of gossip is born.

 

They’re shocked, stunned, amazed and surprised,

Not that upstanding Christian family man,

Snickering “don’t tell anyone” she advised

But they had another plan.

 

He keeps acting like all is cool,

He keeps playing the holy game,

He thinks those around him are obliviously fooled

That’s the sad and absurd shame.

 

For what he does not realize

From compromising with this wench,

Where once emanated fragrant holiness

From his life now comes putrid stench.

 

He once stood spiritually tall,

Now there is much inner distress,

And because of the terror of losing it all

He won’t come clean and confess.

 

His dark draining double life

Progressively takes its toll,

Just like a razor-sharp carving knife

It cuts away at his soul.

 

How will his story end,

Many watch from the sidelines to see,

God wants to heal and mend,

But will he seek help to get free.

 

Will he trust God and tell the truth?

Will he cast aside pride and live?

Will public exposure come from a sleuth?

Will he ask his wife to forgive?

 

One thing that’s certain for sure,

As he chooses to mill about,

God stands lovingly by to restore,

But time is running out.

 

His grace He now extends,

Like a soft gentle breeze it blows,

But once it lifts and ends,

Swift judgment He’ll impose.

 

This too common scene reminds us

To carefully guard our hearts,

Don’t be like a horse with no blinders

Stay focused, reign in lust at the start.

 

SELAH!

Kim

 

“For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.”

(Matthew 15:19 – NKJV)

“Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life.”

(Proverbs 4:23 – NKJV)

“But every person is tempted when he is drawn away, enticed and baited by his own evil desire (lust, passions). Then the evil desire, when it has conceived, gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is fully matured, brings forth death.”

(James 1:14, 15 – Amplified Bible)

“Beloved, I implore you as aliens and strangers and exiles [in this world] to abstain from the sensual urges (the evil desires, the passions of the flesh, your lower nature) that wage war against the soul.”

(I Peter 2:11 – Amplified Bible)

“The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.

Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

(I Corinthians 7:3-5 – NLT)

 “Let marriage be held in honor (esteemed worthy, precious, of great price, and especially dear) in all things. And thus let the marriage bed be undefiled (kept undishonored); for God will judge and punish the unchaste [all guilty of sexual vice] and adulterous.”

(Hebrews 13:4 – Amplified Bible)

Drink water from your own well—
share your love only with your wife.
Why spill the water of your springs in the streets,
having sex with just anyone?
You should reserve it for yourselves.
Never share it with strangers.

Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you.
Rejoice in the wife of your youth.
She is a loving deer, a graceful doe.
Let her breasts satisfy you always.
May you always be captivated by her love.
Why be captivated, my son, by an immoral woman,
or fondle the breasts of a promiscuous woman?

For the Lord sees clearly what a man does,
examining every path he takes.
An evil man is held captive by his own sins;
they are ropes that catch and hold him.
He will die for lack of self-control;
he will be lost because of his great foolishness.

(Proverbs 5:18-23 – NLT)

For by means of a harlot
A man is reduced to a crust of bread;
And an adulteress will prey upon his precious life.
Can a man take fire to his bosom,
And his clothes not be burned?

(Proverbs 6:26-27 – NKJV)

Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding;
He who does so destroys his own soul.
 Wounds and dishonor he will get,
And his reproach will not be wiped away.

(Proverbs 6:32-33 – NKJV)

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

(I John 1:9 – NKJV)

Confess to one another therefore your faults (your slips, your false steps, your offenses, your sins) and pray [also] for one another, that you may be healed and restored [to a spiritual tone of mind and heart]. The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working].

 (James 5:16 – Amplified Bible)

 

Copyright © 2013 by Kim Sweeting, Author of “Unwalled” Blog, All rights reserved.

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WHAT TEMPTS YOU? – PART 2 OF 2

WHAT TEMPTS YOU? – PART 2 OF 2

What tempts you?

It important to know what tempts you.

Why?

It is important to know what tempts you because that knowledge will empower you to better protect yourself against yielding to that temptation.

If you know what tempts you, you can better protect yourself from yielding to that temptation by:

a) completely avoiding what tempts you

b) minimizing your exposure to what tempts you

c) making sure you have a pre-determined plan to deal with what tempts you if you are involuntarily exposed to it

d) looking for and taking the God-provided way of escape.

And why is this rejection-based posture toward temptation important?

Let’s revisit James 1:13, 14 and add verse 15.

“Let no one say when he is tempted, I am tempted from God; for God is incapable of being tempted by [what is] evil and He Himself tempts no one.

 But every person is tempted when he is drawn away, enticed and baited by his own evil desire (lust, passions).

Then the evil desire, when it has conceived, gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is fully matured, brings forth death.”

(Amplified Bible)

This rejection-based posture toward temptation is important because according to John 1:15, evil desires when conceived give birth to sin and sin when it is fully matured produces death.

The New Living Translation puts verses 14 and 15 this way:-

“Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.”

(James 1:14, 15 – NLT)

Yielding to temptation leads to sin and death so it is important for us to know how to protect ourselves from and in temptation.

In light of this, here are 8 keys that will help you deal with temptation:-

1) Know what tempts you. – Don’t deny that something tempts you just because it is taboo. No matter how dark and sinister it may be in the eyes of God, if something tempts you, it tempts you and  the reason it tempts you is because you have a desire for it. Be honest with yourself and with God about what tempts you and ask Him for wisdom as to how to deal with it.

2) Do everything that you can to avoid unnecessary temptation. – Temptation often comes in specific circumstances and under specific conditions. Once you know what these circumstances and situations are for you, do everything you can to avoid being in them.

3) If you find yourself  in the face of temptation look for and take the way of escape. – In instances where temptation is thrust upon you, look for the God-provided way of escape and flee. Know that God will not allow you to be tempted beyond that which you can bear and with every temptation He provides a way of escape. The test within every temptation is whether you will  choose to take the way of escape.

“For no temptation (no trial regarded as enticing to sin), [no matter how it comes or where it leads] has overtaken you and laid hold on you that is not common to man [that is, no temptation or trial has come to you that is beyond human resistance and that is not adjusted and adapted and belonging to human experience, and such as man can bear]. But God is faithful [to His Word and to His compassionate nature], and He [can be trusted] not to let you be tempted and tried and assayed beyond your ability and strength of resistance and power to endure, but with the temptation He will [always] also provide the way out (the means of escape to a landing place), that you may be capable and strong and powerful to bear up under it patiently.”

(I Corinthians 10:13 – Amplified Bible)

4) Know what the Bible says relative to your area of weakness – Read, study, memorize and meditate on the Word relative to your area of temptation and ungodly desire. It’s important to know what the scriptures say before you encounter the place of temptation. Remember, Jesus quoted the Word when confronted with temptation (Matthew 4:3, 4) and so should we. How can we speak “It is written” when we do not know what s written?

“And the tempter came and said to Him, If You are God’s Son, command these stones to be made loaves of] bread. But He replied, It has been written, Man shall not live and be upheld and sustained by bread alone, but by every word that comes forth from the mouth of God.”

(Matthew 4:3, 4 – Amplified Bible)

5) Have an accountability person(s) to help you through. – Prayerfully find someone who is a mature Believer in Christ who you can support, encourage, strengthen and help you deal with your struggles. Connect with them to talk, pray and study the Word concerning your issues. Agree that this person can contact you at least once a week to see how you are doing and that you will be honest with them no matter what. Creating accountability can help you in your struggle against temptation.

“Confess to one another therefore your faults (your slips, your false steps, your offenses, your sins) and pray [also] for one another, that you may be healed and restored [to a spiritual tone of mind and heart]. The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working].”

(James 5:16 – Amplified Bible)

6) When tempting thoughts come, “change mental channels” – According to psychologists, we can only do one cognitive task at a time so when thoughts relative to your area of temptation come, instead of dwelling on them, cast them down and think of something else. Choose to “change mental channels” and focus on the Word or begin to praise God instead of focusing on what tempts you. It would be difficult to yield to temptation when your heart and mind are fully concentrated on the Word, or on praising and worshipping the Lord.

7) Pray – Ask God for help in dealing with temptation. – In Matthew 6:13, when Jesus was teaching His disciples how to pray, He told them to ask God to lead them away from temptation and to deliver them from evil and in Hebrews 4:16 tells us to fearlessly go to God for grace to help us in our time of need. We need to pray and ask God for help in dealing with temptation.

“And lead (bring) us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one. For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.”

(Matthew 6:13 – Amplified Bible)

“Let us then fearlessly and confidently and boldly draw near to the throne of grace (the throne of God’s unmerited favor to us sinners), that we may receive mercy [for our failures] and find grace to help in good time for every need [appropriate help and well-timed help, coming just when we need it].”

(Hebrews 4:16 – Amplified Bible)

8) If you fall, confess and repent quickly.  if you yield to temptation, don’t get bogged down in guilt and condemnation, but instead, confess and repent quickly. God already knows about your sin , it’s no surprise to Him, but confession and repentance is necessary to move forward. It is extremely dangerous to persist in your sin just because you’ve yielded because as James 1:15 states, sin when is it is full-grown, gives birth to death.

If we [freely] admit that we have sinned and confess our sins, He is faithful and just (true to His own nature and promises) and will forgive our sins [dismiss our lawlessness] and [continuously] cleanse us from all unrighteousness [everything not in conformity to His will in purpose, thought, and action].

(I John1:9 – Amplified Bible)

So, what tempts you?

I pray that this knowledge, in addition to the eight keys outlined in this post will empower you to better protect yourself against yielding to temptation.

Hymn – “Yield Not to Temptation”  – music and lyrics by Horatio R. Palmer (1868)

Be encouraged!

Kim

Copyright © 2013 by Kim Sweeting, Author of “Unwalled” Blog, All rights reserved.

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ANOTHER CASUALTY

ANOTHER CASUALTY

"BEWARE OF THE ENEMY"

“BEWARE OF THE ENEMY”

 

enticing visual delight

calculatingly stealthily crossing boundaries

stolen waters sweet?

 

lies, deceit, trust crushed, 

drenching tears, lost years, confusion, fears,

another casualty of infidelity. 

 

“Be well balanced (temperate, sober of mind), be vigilant and cautious at all times; for that enemy of yours, the devil, roams around like a lion roaring [in fierce hunger], seeking someone to seize upon and devour.”

(I Peter 5:8 – Amplified Bible)

 

“So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall! No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.”

(I Corinthians 10:12, 13 – NIV, 1984)

 

DON’T BE A CASUALTY…..TAKE THE WAY OF ESCAPE! 

SELAH!

Kim

 

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BEFORE YOU CHEAT………THINK! (PART 2)

BEFORE YOU CHEAT……..THINK! (PART 2)

BEFORE YOU CHEAT......THINK!!

“BEFORE YOU CHEAT…..THINK!”

 

I originally wrote this post on May 18, 2010 and feel the need to re-post it in light of the high incidence of marital infidelity in the Body of Christ.

As you read, my prayer is that you would be encouraged to decide anew to by God’s grace tenaciously guard the covenant that you made with your spouse before the Lord at the altar on your wedding day.

Remember, we will each give an account to Him re: our marriages one day.

SELAH!

Kim

 Adultery –“voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband” – (Merriam-Webster’s Online Dictionary)
Man of God, Woman of God, before you commit adultery, THINK!

 “For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”

(2 Corinthians 10:3-5 – NIV)

When faced with the prospect of an adulterous relationship, the first, best and most powerful line of defense we have is in our minds. Whatever we focus on in our mind becomes magnified in our life; what we behold, we become.

If we take our minds off of what the Word of God says about adultery and focus our thoughts on what we believe would be the pleasurable aspects of an extramarital relationship, then we automatically increase the likelihood that we will commit the sin of adultery.

Conversely, if we set our minds on what the Word of God has to say about adultery and our thoughts on the damaging aspects of an extramarital relationship, then we automatically decrease the likelihood that we will commit the sin of adultery.

So rather than entertaining thoughts that will draw us toward committing this sin, we need to instead focus our thoughts on what will draw us toward God and away from committing it, to focus them on how the Word condemns such a relationship, on the responsibility that we have to God when it comes to our blood bought bodies, and on the certain damage that such a relationship would bring.

Man of God, Woman of God, before you commit adultery, THINK!

Do not entertain thoughts that will feed and strengthen your fleshly nature and thereby increase the likelihood that you will engage in an adulterous relationship.

Do not think about the potential pleasure, the thrill of the newness, the enticing challenge of the sexual conquest, what the person may do sexually that your spouse will not or can not do, the excitement of the secret lunches, dinners, and trips or as Bahamians say, the “ghost moves”, the potential money and material goods you may gain, the adoration and encouragement you may receive that your spouse has not given you, the companionship and conversation you may enjoy that has not been forthcoming from your spouse, etc.

Instead, set your mind on what the Word of God says and on thoughts that will kill your fleshly nature, strengthen your spirit man and increase your propensity to remain faithful to your spouse.

 Man of God, Woman of God, before you commit adultery, THINK!

Think about the spiritual price you will pay.

Think about the damage to your relationship and fellowship with God.

Think about what God says in the Word about committing adultery.

Think about what He says is the fate of those who practice adultery, that they shall not inherit His Kingdom and will be judged by Him.

Think about how you would be breaking a covenant and vow you made before God – do not be deceived, it’s not just about you and your spouse, it never has been and never will be.

Think about how having sex outside your marriage is taking the temple of the Holy Spirit (your body) and defiling it.

Think about how much it will grieve the Holy Spirit, the One who has always been with you and in you to help you in your walk with Christ.

Man of God, Woman of God, before you commit adultery, THINK!

Think about the guilt and shame and the heavy weight of conviction in the depths of your soul.

Think about the negative effect on the Body of Christ, the church.

Think about the reproach it will bring to the name of Jesus Christ which you bear as His child.

Think about the door of lies and deceit that it will open in your life and God desires truth in your innermost parts.

Think about how absolutely nothing is hidden from God so the affair will not be a secret –  He will see you and the individual wherever you are and whatever you are doing and He can communicate it to whomever, whenever He chooses.

Think about the foothold you will give the enemy, the ammunition to accuse and torment you over and over and over in your mind, bringing what you did to your remembrance even when you want to forget it and move on.

Think about the enemy laughing at you for his victory in this area of your life.

Man of God, Woman of God, before you commit adultery, THINK!

Think about the cutting pain and damage it will cause your spouse – mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically and socially.

Think about the cutting pain and damage it will cause your children – mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically and socially.

Think about the cutting pain and damage it will cause you – mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically and socially.

Think about the irreversible damage to your marriage and your family – things will never be the same.

Think about how it may lead to divorce – Do you really want to lose your wife/husband, your children? Is that what you really want?

Think about courts, lawyers, alimony, child support, child visitation.

Think about another man or woman raising your children, the children God has entrusted to you.

Man of God, Woman of God, before you commit adultery, THINK!

Think about the fact that God says you are sinning against your own body.

Think about the sexually transmitted diseases you may contract, Chlamydia, Trichomoniasis, Gonorrhea, and Syphilis, Herpes Simplex Virus (HSV-2), Genital Herpes, Human Papillomavirus (HPV), Hepatitis B, and Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV).

Think about passing on this sexually transmitted disease to your spouse.

Think about suffering and dying from the sexually transmitted disease or related complications.

Think about your spouse suffering and dying from the sexually transmitted disease or related complications.

Think about your children becoming orphans all because of your selfish desire for sexual gratification.

 Man of God, Woman of God, before you commit adultery, THINK!

Think about the potential demonic infiltration into your body – once you have sexual relations, whatever spirits dwell in that person  can now enter you.

Think of the soul ties you will form with that person, that they would become a part of you – sex makes two one.

Think about unplanned pregnancy.

Think about having to tell your wife/husband and children and extended family about it – even worse, think about becoming a murderer through abortion.

Think about the misuse of money that God has entrusted you to be a good steward of – money once used to honorably take care of your family, finance the Kingdom and help others, now being used to finance sin.

Think about the stress, strain and pressure of living a double life, with the ever-present fear of being found out.

Think about how difficult it may be to sever the relationship when you want it to end – there is no guarantee that you can get out of it as easily as you got in?

What if the other person does not want to end the relationship and threatens to expose it if you leave them?

What if they threaten to end your life or the life of your spouse if you leave them? – Far fetched? – Just listen to the news anywhere.

Think about the possibility of dying in that life of sin without having a chance to repent.

Think about losing out on completing your God-given life purpose or assignment.

Man of God, Woman of God, before you commit adultery, THINK!

All of this for a 3-8 second orgasm?

All of this for a few hours of companionship?

All of this for material goods that you can not even take with you into eternity?

AN EXTRAMARITAL/ADULTEROUS RELATIONSHIP IS COSTLY!

Are you willing to pay the price spiritually, mentally, physically, emotionally, socially, financially?

Man of God, Woman of God, before you commit adultery, THINK!

Shalom!

Kim

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BEFORE YOU CHEAT……..THINK! (PART 1)

BEFORE YOU CHEAT……..THINK! (PART 1)

BEFORE YOU CHEAT.........THINK

“BEFORE YOU CHEAT……….THINK!”

I originally wrote this post on May 18, 2010 and feel the need to re-post it in light of the high incidence of marital infidelity in the Body of Christ.

As you read, my prayer is that you would be encouraged to decide anew to by God’s grace tenaciously guard the covenant that you made with your spouse before the Lord at the altar on your wedding day.

Remember, we will each give an account to Him re: our marriages one day.

SELAH!

Kim

 Adultery –“voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband” 

(Merriam-Webster’s Online Dictionary)

Man of God, Woman of God, before you cheat, THINK!

Many in today’s permissive society consider extramarital sex acceptable and blameless, however in the Kingdom of God the sexual standard of marriage is fidelity, i.e. sexual relations between a man and his wife or a woman and her husband only.

 “Thou shalt not commit adultery.”

(Exodus 20:14 – KJV)

“No adultery.”

(Deuteronomy 5:18 – The Message)

 ”Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.”

(Hebrews 13:4 – NLT)

“Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.”

(Hebrews 13:4 – The Message)

  Man of God, Woman of God, before you cheat, THINK!

God’s standard about extramarital sex is clear. He makes absolutely no room for sexual relations with anyone other than your spouse and provides no exceptions to His rule.

So often we hear, “if my wife/husband did/didn’t, would/wouldn’t, had/hadn’t, etc. then I would not have engaged in an affair.” There will undoubtedly be times of strained relations between you and your spouse within your marriage for one reason or another however God’s standards are absolute and do not change according to our situations, needs or desires.

“Then Jesus said to His disciples, If anyone desires to be My disciple, let him deny himself [disregard, lose sight of, and forget himself and his own interests] and take up his cross and follow Me [cleave steadfastly to Me, conform wholly to My example in living and, if need be, in dying, also].”

(Matthew 16:24 – Amplified Bible)

God does not permit, or say it is okay for us to us to engage in extramarital sex if our spouses do not meet some standard or expectation that we have in some area of our marriage. Instead, as in every other challenging situation, He tells us to deny ourselves, take up our cross and follow Jesus Christ (the Word), even if that means no sex.

Man of God, Woman of God, before you cheat, THINK!

You may say, oh but the temptation is too great. I can not help myself. Don’t you see all the fine-looking fellows and sexy looking ladies all around? Everywhere I turn some body is calling out to me. How can anyone stand up to that kind of temptation after all, we are only human? Surely God does not expect us to stay faithful to our spouse with all the other tempting delights He created all around us!

 “The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.”

(I Corinthians 10:13 – NLT)

“For no temptation (no trial regarded as enticing to sin), [no matter how it comes or where it leads] has overtaken you and laid hold on you that is not common to man [that is, no temptation or trial has come to you that is beyond human resistance and that is not adjusted and adapted and belonging to human experience, and such as man can bear]. But God is faithful [to His Word and to His compassionate nature], and He [can be trusted] not to let you be tempted and tried and assayed beyond your ability and strength of resistance and power to endure, but with the temptation He will [always] also provide the way out (the means of escape to a landing place), that you may be capable and strong and powerful to bear up under it patiently.”

(I Corinthians 10:13 – Amplified Bible)

After reading this scripture, it is clear that as far as God is concerned, temptation is no excuse for infidelity. He said that He will not allow any temptation to be more than we can stand and when tempted, He will always show us a way of escape.

So in light of this verse, we are not really being truthful when we say “I could not help myself” or “it just happened”, it would be more accurate to say “I could have helped myself but I chose not to” or “I saw the way of escape but I chose not to take it” – like one of my former pastors used to say, “It’s tight, but it’s right”.

 Man of God, Woman of God, before you cheat, THINK!

                                                                                                                                                                                                                   ……………to be continued

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THE PORN TRAP

THE PORN TRAP

I wrote this a few years back and posted it in 2010, but sense a need to post it again today.

BEWARE OF THE PORN TRAP

“BEWARE OF THE PORN TRAP”

In the middle of the night when your spouse is asleep,

To the computer you would creep,

A press of a button a few clicks of a mouse,

Who are these strangers you are letting in your house?

 

The screen comes alive with bodies galore,

Every kind of image you can think of and more,

Clothing all absent everything spread,

Your body heats up as sights sink in your head.

 

Some hours later you’re still glued to the screen,

Now you’re feeling anything but clean,

Your bodily fluids are all over you,

Is this really what you want to do?

 

You sneak back to bed and under the quilt,

Now you’re laden down with all kinds of guilt,

The images permeate your mind through and through,

You’re finished with them, but they’re not finished with you.

 

You try to play tough you try to play strong,

You try to convince yourself you’ve done nothing wrong,

But my brother, my sister there’s something deathly wrong with that,

Once you’ve looked on with lust you’ve committed the act.

 

Whether or not you want to admit it,

You are bound up in sin and you need to quit it,

The enemy has a vice-like grip on you

And it’s only God’s power that can bring the breakthrough.

 

You’re not just reading this because it is near,

It’s God’s Spirit speaking to you loud and clear,

He’s saying my son, my daughter come running to me

I love you, I’ll forgive you, I’ll set you free.

 

So stop sneaking, stop hiding, stop pretending today,

Instead humble yourself on your knees and pray,

 A broken heart and contrite spirit He will not despise,

With His help from these ashes you shall arise.

 

“But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust in his eye has

already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

Matthew 5:28 (NLT)

“But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us and to cleanse us from every wrong.”

I John 1:9 (NLT)

“I will refuse to look at anything vile and vulgar.  I hate all crooked dealings.”

Psalm 101:3 (NLT)

 

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“DRESSED TO SEDUCE”

“DRESSED TO SEDUCE”

 

“BEWARE OF SEDUCTION”

 

“Dear friend, do what I tell you; treasure my careful instructions.


Do what I say and you’ll live well.

My teaching is as precious as your eyesight—guard it!

Write it out on the back of your hands; etch it on the chambers of your heart.


Talk to Wisdom as to a sister.

Treat Insight as your companion.


They’ll be with you to fend off the Temptress—that smooth-talking, honey-tongued Seductress.

 

As I stood at the window of my house looking out through the shutters,


Watching the mindless crowd stroll by,

I spotted a young man without any sense
.

Arriving at the corner of the street where she lived,

then turning up the path to her house.


It was dusk, the evening coming on ,
the darkness thickening into night.


Just then, a woman met him—she’d been lying in wait for him, dressed to seduce him.


Brazen and brash she was, restless and roaming, never at home,


Walking the streets, loitering in the mall, hanging out at every corner in town.

 

She threw her arms around him and kissed him, boldly took his arm and said,
“I’ve got all the makings for a feast—today I made my offerings, my vows are all paid,


So now I’ve come to find you, hoping to catch sight of your face—and here you are!


I’ve spread fresh, clean sheets on my bed, colorful imported linens.


My bed is aromatic with spices
and exotic fragrances.


Come, let’s make love all night,
spend the night in ecstatic lovemaking!


My husband’s not home; he’s away on business,
and he won’t be back for a month.”

 

Soon she has him eating out of her hand, bewitched by her honeyed speech.

Before you know it, he’s trotting behind her, like a calf led to the butcher shop,

Like a stag lured into ambush and then shot with an arrow,

Like a bird flying into a net
 not knowing that its flying life is over.

 

So, friends, listen to me, take these words of mine most seriously.

Don’t fool around with a woman like that;

don’t even stroll through her neighborhood.

Countless victims come under her spell;


she’s the death of many a poor man.


She runs a halfway house to hell,


fits you out with a shroud and a coffin.”

(Proverbs 7 – The Message Bible)

SELAH!

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TEN TIPS TO HELP PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE AGAINST ADULTERY / EXTRAMARITAL AFFAIRS – (TIP #9)

10 TIPS TO HELP PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE AGAINST

ADULTERY / EXTRAMARITAL AFFAIRS – (TIP #9)

“TOGETHER FOREVER”

Adultery –“voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband” 

(Merriam-Webster’s Online Dictionary)

Of late, many Christian women that I either know personally or Christian friends or associates of these women were shattered by the discovery of their husband’s involvement in an extra-marital affair, or multiple affairs.

At some point, a door opened in the marital relationship that led from one thing to the next and now, in some cases after 20-25 years of marriage, the specter of divorce looms menacingly over a covenant relationship that once brought joy and fulfillment to the husband and wife and glory to God.

Many in today’s permissive society consider extramarital sex as acceptable and blameless, however in God’s view, this is not so. His sexual standard for marriage is fidelity, i.e. sexual relations between a man and his wife or a woman and her husband only.

“Thou shalt not commit adultery.”

(Exodus 20:14 – KJV)

“No adultery.”

(Deuteronomy 5:18 – The Message)

 Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.”

(Hebrews 13:4 – NLT)

“Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.”

(Hebrews 13:4 – The Message)

God’s stand on extramarital sex is clear. He makes absolutely no room for sexual relations with anyone other than your spouse and provides no exceptions to His rule.

In light of this, here is TIP #9 to help protect your marriage against adultery.

TIP #9

Believe that you are able to resist sexual temptation.

Believing that you are able to resist sexual temptation is an important strategy to help protect your marriage against adultery.

If you choose to believe statements like,

  • “Sexual temptation is too great for me to resist”
  • “I cannot help myself if I tempted sexually”
  • “I’m only human so I will fall sexually at some point”
  • “God does not really expect me to stay faithful to my spouse with all the other tempting delights He created all around me” etc

you will automatically make yourself more prone to involvement in an affair.

This is why it is important to instead believe the Word of God.

“The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.”

(I Corinthians 10:13 – NLT)

“For no temptation (no trial regarded as enticing to sin), [no matter how it comes or where it leads] has overtaken you and laid hold on you that is not common to man [that is, no temptation or trial has come to you that is beyond human resistance and that is not adjusted and adapted and belonging to human experience, and such as man can bear]. But God is faithful [to His Word and to His compassionate nature], and He [can be trusted] not to let you be tempted and tried and assayed beyond your ability and strength of resistance and power to endure, but with the temptation He will [always] also provide the way out (the means of escape to a landing place), that you may be capable and strong and powerful to bear up under it patiently.”

(I Corinthians 10:13 – Amplified Bible)

After reading this scripture, it is clear that as far as God is concerned, temptation is no excuse for infidelity.

He said that He will not allow any temptation to be more than we can stand and when tempted, He will always show us a way of escape.

So in light of this verse, we are not really being truthful when we say “I could not help myself” or “it just happened”.

It would be more accurate to say “I could have helped myself but I chose not to” or “I saw the way of escape but I chose not to take it” – like one of my former pastors used to say, “It’s tight, but it’s right”.

So who are you going to choose to believe when it comes to your ability to resist sexual temptation, the Word of God or your flesh?

 Believing that you are able to resist sexual temptation is an important strategy to help protect your marriage against adultery.

The prevalence of marital infidelity is sad, disturbing, and extremely grievous to the Holy Spirit of God.

Fellow Christians/Believers in Christ/Kingdom Ambassadors/Saints, by the grace of God, let’s do all we can to protect our marriages and keep them away from the snare of adultery / extramarital affairs and encourage others to do the same all to the honor and glory of God.

Visit again for TIP #10.

Peace & Blessings!

Kim

Copyright © 2012 by Kim, Author of “Unwalled” Blog, All rights reserved.

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TEN TIPS TO HELP PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE AGAINST ADULTERY / EXTRAMARITAL AFFAIRS – (TIP #8)

10 TIPS TO HELP PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE AGAINST

ADULTERY / EXTRAMARITAL AFFAIRS – (TIP #8)

“TOGETHER FOREVER”

Adultery –“voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband” 

(Merriam-Webster’s Online Dictionary)

Of late, many Christian women that I either know personally or Christian friends or associates of these women were shattered by the discovery of their husband’s involvement in an extra-marital affair, or multiple affairs.

At some point, a door opened in the marital relationship that led from one thing to the next and now, in some cases after 20-25 years of marriage, the specter of divorce looms menacingly over a covenant relationship that once brought joy and fulfillment to the husband and wife and glory to God.

Many in today’s permissive society consider extramarital sex as acceptable and blameless, however in God’s view, this is not so. His sexual standard for marriage is fidelity, i.e. sexual relations between a man and his wife or a woman and her husband only.

“Thou shalt not commit adultery.”

(Exodus 20:14 – KJV)

“No adultery.”

(Deuteronomy 5:18 – The Message)

 Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.”

(Hebrews 13:4 – NLT)

“Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.”

(Hebrews 13:4 – The Message)

God’s stand on extramarital sex is clear. He makes absolutely no room for sexual relations with anyone other than your spouse and provides no exceptions to His rule.

In light of this, here is TIP #8 to help protect your marriage against adultery.

TIP #8

Guard Your Thought Life

 No one suddenly decides to have an extramarital affair.

A spouse who commits adultery has been unfaithful in his or her heart and mind long before he or she begins an affair.

All adultery begins in the mind with a thought so this is why guarding your thought life is an important strategy to help protect your marriage against adultery.

Entertaining, nurturing and or meditating on lustful thoughts about someone other than your spouse or on the prospect of an affair will increase the likelihood that you engage in an adulterous relationship.

Instead, cast those thoughts down and focus your mind on what the Word of God says about marriage and adultery and on thoughts that will kill lustful desires, strengthen your spirit man and increase your propensity to remain faithful to your spouse.

“The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”

(II Corinthians 10:4, 5 – NIV, 1984)

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things” 

(Philippians 4:8 – NIV, 1984)

When faced with the prospect of an adulterous relationship, the first, best and most powerful line of defense you have is in your mind.

If you take your mind off of what the Word of God says about adultery and focus your thoughts on what you believe would be the pleasurable aspects of an extramarital relationship, then you will automatically increase the likelihood that you will cheat on your spouse.

Conversely, if you set your mind on what the Word of God has to say about adultery and your thoughts on the damaging aspects of an extramarital relationship, then you automatically decrease the likelihood that you will cheat on your spouse.

So rather than focusing on thoughts that will draw you toward committing this sin, instead focus your thoughts on what will draw you toward God and away from committing it.

Focus them on how the Word condemns such a relationship, on God’s love for you and Christ’s sacrifice on the cross for you, on the responsibility that you have to God when it comes to your blood bought body, and on the inevitable damage that such a relationship would bring to you, your spouse, your natural and spiritual family and most of all, your relationship with God.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” 

(Proverbs 4:23 – NIV).

Remember, nobody wakes up one day and suddenly decides to have an extramarital affair.

Whatever you focus on in your mind becomes magnified in your life; what you behold, you become.

All adultery begins in the mind so help protect your marriage against adultery by vigilantly guarding your thought life.

The prevalence of marital infidelity is sad, disturbing, and extremely grievous to the Holy Spirit of God.

Fellow Christians/Believers in Christ/Kingdom Ambassadors/Saints, by the grace of God, let’s do all we can to protect our marriages and keep them away from the snare of adultery / extramarital affairs and encourage others to do the same all to the honor and glory of God.

Visit again for TIP #9.

Peace & Blessings!

Kim

Copyright © 2012 by Kim, Author of “Unwalled” Blog, All rights reserved.

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SOME SEXUAL ADVICE FOR MEN

SOME SEXUAL ADVICE FOR MEN

Temptation

 

Avoid Immoral Women

 “1 My son, pay attention to my wisdom;
      listen carefully to my wise counsel.
2 Then you will show discernment,
      and your lips will express what you’ve learned.
3 For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey,
      and her mouth is smoother than oil.
4 But in the end she is as bitter as poison,
      as dangerous as a double-edged sword.

5 Her feet go down to death;
      her steps lead straight to the grave.
6 For she cares nothing about the path to life.
      She staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t realize it.

 7 So now, my sons, listen to me.
      Never stray from what I am about to say:
8 Stay away from her!
      Don’t go near the door of her house!
9 If you do, you will lose your honor
      and will lose to merciless people all you have achieved.
10 Strangers will consume your wealth,
      and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labor.
11 In the end you will groan in anguish
      when disease consumes your body.
12 You will say, “How I hated discipline!
      If only I had not ignored all the warnings!
13 Oh, why didn’t I listen to my teachers?
      Why didn’t I pay attention to my instructors?

 14 I have come to the brink of utter ruin,
      and now I must face public disgrace.”

15 Drink water from your own well—
      share your love only with your wife.
16 Why spill the water of your springs in the streets,
      having sex with just anyone?
17 You should reserve it for yourselves.
      Never share it with strangers.

 18 Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you.
      Rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 She is a loving deer, a graceful doe.
      Let her breasts satisfy you always.
      May you always be captivated by her love.

20 Why be captivated, my son, by an immoral woman,
      or fondle the breasts of a promiscuous woman?

21 For the Lord sees clearly what a man does,
      examining every path he takes.

22 An evil man is held captive by his own sins;
      they are ropes that catch and hold him.
23 He will die for lack of self-control;
      he will be lost because of his great foolishness.”

SELAH!

(Proverbs 5:1-23 NLT)

Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright 1996, 2004. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.,Wheaton,Illinois 60189. All rights reserved

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