FIVE “SANITY-KEEPING” STRATEGIES FOR WIVES

FIVE “SANITY-KEEPING” STRATEGIES FOR WIVES

"TOGETHER FOREVER"

“TOGETHER FOREVER – BY GOD’S GRACE”

 
Whenever a man and woman come together in holy matrimony, there is an intermeshing of two distinct bodies, minds, souls, spirits, families, histories, experiences, personalities, worldviews, expectations, and imperfections so conflict is inevitable at some point in the union.

This stands true whether the individuals are Believers in Christ or not……can I get a witness???…okay, I won’t get “churchy” on you (smile!).

Having recently celebrated 25 years of marriage, I’m blessed to be able to say that the canvas of my matrimonial relationship is painted with more blue skies than gray, more mountains than valleys, and more roses than thorns, nevertheless, like many other Christian women, I’ve faced my share of marital challenges.

The following are five “sanity-keeping” strategies that I’ve found helpful in my experience as a married Christian woman. 

I shared them previously in April of 2011 and felt a need to share them again today for someone…….if that’s you, my prayer is that you’ll find them helpful too.

1) Recognize and accept that your husband is not perfect.

This may come as a great surprise to you, but your husband is not the only one in your marital relationship that is not perfect, neither are you…..ouch!

It’s important to accept and recognize that the same way you’re on a life-long journey of learning, growth, and development and are therefore likely to make some mistakes or “not so good” decisions at some point, so is your husband.

Remembering this will help you to have more patience, compassion, and understanding when it comes to dealing with his shortcomings, weaknesses, and failures.

2) Look to God as your source, not your husband.

Whatever your needs, whether mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, or financial, practice going to God first about how they can be met as opposed to automatically looking to your husband to meet them.

Ask God for wisdom and direction as to how best to deal with your needs, and know that at times, He may not give you the liberty of voicing them to your husband, but may instead require you to quietly wait on Him to intervene and meet them in His way and His time.

Also, remember that by divine design, your husband will never be able to meet all of your needs so be careful not to fall into the trap of placing unreasonable demands on him, i.e., expecting him to give you what only God can give, or be to you who only God can be.

3) Don’t try to change your husband.

Although they may deny it, many Christian women secretly take on the role of “Holy Ghost Jr.” and set out to change their husbands into the man that they believe he should be.

Woman of God, do yourself and your husband a favor and “don’t go there”.

No matter what you may think, feel, or believe, the truth of the matter is that you can not change your husband, only God can, so you may as well not even try.

Setting out to change your husband is an exercise in frustration and futility because changing a person is a role reserved by God for the Holy Spirit to be done in His way and His time.

Also, be aware that even when your husband is in “error” or “at fault”, sometimes God may not change him right away, but may instead require that you adjust or change first instead.

From your view, this may not be pleasant, or even seem fair, but God is God so we must trust Him and His infinite wisdom to work, in and through our situations as He knows is best.

4) No matter what your husband does, forgive him.

Let’s face it, whether intentionally or unintentionally, sometimes husbands say and do some very hurtful and even harmful things.

When faced with this kind of situation, in spite of the temptation and or desire to retaliate or hold bitterness, anger, and resentment toward your husband, you need to forgive him.

What??????

Hold on a minute!!!!!

Do you know what he did to me?

Do you know what he said to me?

Do you know what he told others about me?

Look at how much I am suffering!

And I must forgive him?

You have got to be out of your mind!!!

Yes, I am out of my mind.

I am out of my fleshly mind because my fleshly mind would tell you to retaliate and seek some type of revenge, to find a way to as Bahamians say, “do him in!”, but that is not the way of the Kingdom; it is not the mind of Christ.

Matthew 6:14, 15 states, “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” (New Living Translation)

Sobering!

No one on the face of this earth, including your husband, is worth influencing you to the point where you find yourself walking in a place of unforgiveness with God…….absolutely no one! Selah!

No matter what we face within our marriages, as Christian wives, it is critical that we diligently guard our hearts from  harboring a spirit of unforgiveness towards our husbands.

If ever you find it difficult to forgive your husband, stop and think about the many times you sinned against God and He in His mercy forgave you………..I think that should help.

5) Never love your husband more than you love God.

As Christian women, while it is Biblically correct to obey our husbands, we’re not to do so if what our husband desires is in opposition to what God requires.

God measures our love for Him by our obedience to Him so if we do what our husband desires when it is in opposition to what God requires, we show that we love our husbands more than we love God and this is never right.

God is a jealous God and He makes it emphatically clear in His Word that we are to have no other gods before him.

This means that no matter how “good” your husband may be he should never have first place in your life.

Love your husband, but never allow him to sit on the seat of the throne of your heart, that place is reserved for God alone.

If you ever allow your husband to become an idol in your heart, you can rest assured that at some point, God will take action to correct the situation.

Well, those are five “sanity-saving” strategies that I have found helpful in my experience as a married Christian woman….I hope you found them helpful too.

Be encouraged!

Kim

 

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 “FIVE SANITY-SAVING STRATEGIES FOR DESPERATE WIVES” Copyright © 2011 by Kim Sweeting, Author of “Unwalled” Blog, All rights reserved.

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BUSINESS OR BUSYNESS?

BUSINESS OR BUSYNESS?

 

BUSYNESS OR BUSINESS?

BUSYNESS OR BUSINESS?

 

Business?

or

Busyness?

Which one are you about?

 

Jesus said He had to be about His Father’s business.

He did not day He had to be about His Father’s busyness.

 

Business?

or

Busyness?

Which one are you about?

 

Busyness is about being busy.

It may or may not be related to business.

All too often people mistakenly equate busyness to business.

 

Business?

or

Busyness?

Which one are you about?

 

When it comes to Kingdom work, it’s important to have clear distinction between

busy-ness, i.e., doing stuff

and  

business, i.e., doing what God sanctions and that is producing what is of value and importance to HIm.

 

SELAH!

 

“And He said to them, “Why did you seek Me? Did you not know that I must be about My Father’s business?”

(Luke 2:49 – NKJV)

 

 

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5 KEYS TO STRENGTHEN YOUR MARRIAGE

5 KEYS TO STRENGTHEN YOUR MARRIAGE

DO ALL YOU CAN TO STRENGTHEN YOUR MARRIAGE

DO ALL YOU CAN TO STRENGTHEN YOUR MARRIAGE

 

Make a fist with your left hand but keep your thumb sticking out.

Now extend your ring finger only all the way up…you can’t.

The ring finger is the only finger that cannot be extended fully separately.

Likewise, you cannot extend your marriage fully separately on your own. You need help from the Lord always, from your spouse almost always and from other wise, mature, godly persons from time-to-time….SELAH.

The Word of God in Hosea 4:6 states, “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge” (NIV)

A lack of knowledge has proven destructive in many marriages so here are 5 keys, or nuggets of knowledge that if diligently applied will strengthen your marriage.

KEY 1) – HONOR GOD AS GOD  

Honor God as God. Keep Him and the covenant you made before Him at the center of your marriage. Have Him as the ultimate authority in all matters and seek to glorify Him in all you do. Remember as  Believer in Christ your marriage is not just about you and your spouse, God is an integral part and He is the glue that can see you through.

KEY 2) – UNDERSTAND AND ACCEPT EACH OTHER’S UNIQUE DIFFERENCES

As individuals with different genders, backgrounds and life experiences, you and your spouse are not the same. Seek to understand each other’s unique differences, and if not illegal or immoral in God’s eyes, to accept them instead of making them a point of contention in your marital relationship. Embrace each other’s differences as complementary elements that strengthen and add variety to your marriage instead of rejecting them in a negative light.

KEY 3) – WALK IN LOVE AND RESPECT

Ephesians 5:33 states, “each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” – (NIV)

Based on over 25 years of marital counseling, in his book “Love and Respect – The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs”, Dr. Emerson Eggerich states that “A woman needs love like she needs air to breathe and a man needs respect like he needs air to breathe” and feels this is one reason God commands a husband to love and a wife to respect.

Wives, let your husbands know what is loving and unloving to you, and husbands, let your wives know what is respectful and disrespectful to you then both act on this knowledge, recognizing that a husband’s love for his wife motivates her to show him respect him and a wife’s respect for her husband motivates him to show her love.

(Source: “Love & Respect  – The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs”, 2010, by Dr. Emerson Eggerich)

KEY 4) – IDENTIFY AND MEET EACH OTHER’S MAIN EMOTIONAL NEEDS

In his book “His Needs, Her Needs – Building an Affair-Proof Marriage” Psychologist and Marriage Counselor Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr. identifies 10 main emotional needs in a marriage namely, sexual fulfillment, recreational companionship, physical attractiveness, domestic support, admiration, (which he noted are usually the husbands’ top 5) affection, intimate conversation, honesty and openness, financial support and family commitment (which he noted are usually the wives’ top 5).

Identifying, sharing, then meeting each other’s main emotional needs will strengthen your marriage. Seek to meet your spouses main emotional needs as you would want your spouse to meet yours.

(Source: “His Need’s, Her Need’s – Building an Affair-Proof Marriage”, 2011, by Willard F. Harley Jr, 2011 )

KEY) 5 – SEEK TO BE GOOD & GODLY COMMUNICATORS

Good communication is said to be a lifeline to the health of a good marriage. Seek to be good and godly communicators.

When communicating with your spouse, 1) Be mindful of the time – when either of you is hungry, angry, tired or rushed it is usually not a good time; 2) Choose your words wisely – there are many ways to say the same thing, some harmful and some good; 3) Watch your tone of voice, facial expression and body language – they send stronger messages than your words; 4) Speak the truth in love – truth builds trust and lies destroy trust which like virginity, once lost never returns to its original state; 5) Discuss issues – sweeping them under the carpet and pretending they are not there is a recipe for disaster; 6) Use PEPP talk often: P= praise – speak well of your spouse, E= encourage – build up your spouse, P= problem solve – work to resolve or diffuse situations that arise between you and your spouse, and P=prayer – pray without ceasing for and with your spouse; 7) Look up scriptures on communication and apply the principles to your marriage.

The Word of God in Hosea 4:6 states, “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge” (NIV)

A lack of knowledge has proven destructive in many marriages 

It is my prayer that the knowledge that I have shared with you was helpful and enlightening in some way and that you will diligently apply it as led by the Holy Spirit to strengthen and maximize the marriage God has entrusted to you.

Be blessed by “The Marriage Prayer” by John & Josee Waller

 

Be encouraged!

Kim

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THE SIN-SATIONAL POWER OF LUST

THE SIN-SATIONAL POWER OF LUST

LUST IS POWERFUL

 LUST IS POWERFUL

LUST – “Intense or unbridled sexual desire” 

(Source – Merriam-Webster Online at www.Merriam-Webster.com)

 

Lust moved from his heart to his head,

Then he played with the thoughts in his mind,

Next he’s acted it out in somebody’s bed

To the plan of the enemy blind.

 

He flirted boldly with the flesh,

He dabbled knowingly in raw sin,

He tasted “sweet” forbidden waters,

And now the claws are in.

 

He got up and covered his tracks,

He built up an inner defense,

He told himself he’d never go back

Removed tell-tale evidence.

 

He said “self now you’ve got to be smart”,

He said “self now you’ve got to be slick”,

He said “self now you’ve got to lie from the start”

If anyone suspects you of this.

 

But what’s unseen is a sinister tie,

His soul with hers has become one,

From this fling he thought he’d easily fly

But it’s much harder to get undone.

 

She wields her power like a sword

And down he goes again,

She uses him like a toy when bored

No love, no care, no pain.

 

She blazes in and out his life

Like a fiery shooting comet,

His self-control lost at her beck and call

He returns like a dog to its vomit.

 

He thinks, what have I done,

I didn’t bargain for all of this,

My wife, my kids, my reputation

It’s all now at high risk.

 

In panic he begs her their “secret” to hide

She smiles and laughs silently with scorn,

Then calls up her friends in them to “confide”

Now the fire of gossip is born.

 

They’re shocked, stunned, amazed and surprised,

Not that upstanding Christian family man,

Snickering “don’t tell anyone” she advised

But they had another plan.

 

He keeps acting like all is cool,

He keeps playing the holy game,

He thinks those around him are obliviously fooled

That’s the sad and absurd shame.

 

For what he does not realize

From compromising with this wench,

Where once emanated fragrant holiness

From his life now comes putrid stench.

 

He once stood spiritually tall,

Now there is much inner distress,

And because of the terror of losing it all

He won’t come clean and confess.

 

His dark draining double life

Progressively takes its toll,

Just like a razor-sharp carving knife

It cuts away at his soul.

 

How will his story end,

Many watch from the sidelines to see,

God wants to heal and mend,

But will he seek help to get free.

 

Will he trust God and tell the truth?

Will he cast aside pride and live?

Will public exposure come from a sleuth?

Will he ask his wife to forgive?

 

One thing that’s certain for sure,

As he chooses to mill about,

God stands lovingly by to restore,

But time is running out.

 

His grace He now extends,

Like a soft gentle breeze it blows,

But once it lifts and ends,

Swift judgment He’ll impose.

 

This too common scene reminds us

To carefully guard our hearts,

Don’t be like a horse with no blinders

Stay focused, reign in lust at the start.

 

SELAH!

Kim

 

“For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.”

(Matthew 15:19 – NKJV)

“Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life.”

(Proverbs 4:23 – NKJV)

“But every person is tempted when he is drawn away, enticed and baited by his own evil desire (lust, passions). Then the evil desire, when it has conceived, gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is fully matured, brings forth death.”

(James 1:14, 15 – Amplified Bible)

“Beloved, I implore you as aliens and strangers and exiles [in this world] to abstain from the sensual urges (the evil desires, the passions of the flesh, your lower nature) that wage war against the soul.”

(I Peter 2:11 – Amplified Bible)

“The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.

Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

(I Corinthians 7:3-5 – NLT)

 “Let marriage be held in honor (esteemed worthy, precious, of great price, and especially dear) in all things. And thus let the marriage bed be undefiled (kept undishonored); for God will judge and punish the unchaste [all guilty of sexual vice] and adulterous.”

(Hebrews 13:4 – Amplified Bible)

Drink water from your own well—
share your love only with your wife.
Why spill the water of your springs in the streets,
having sex with just anyone?
You should reserve it for yourselves.
Never share it with strangers.

Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you.
Rejoice in the wife of your youth.
She is a loving deer, a graceful doe.
Let her breasts satisfy you always.
May you always be captivated by her love.
Why be captivated, my son, by an immoral woman,
or fondle the breasts of a promiscuous woman?

For the Lord sees clearly what a man does,
examining every path he takes.
An evil man is held captive by his own sins;
they are ropes that catch and hold him.
He will die for lack of self-control;
he will be lost because of his great foolishness.

(Proverbs 5:18-23 – NLT)

For by means of a harlot
A man is reduced to a crust of bread;
And an adulteress will prey upon his precious life.
Can a man take fire to his bosom,
And his clothes not be burned?

(Proverbs 6:26-27 – NKJV)

Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding;
He who does so destroys his own soul.
 Wounds and dishonor he will get,
And his reproach will not be wiped away.

(Proverbs 6:32-33 – NKJV)

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

(I John 1:9 – NKJV)

Confess to one another therefore your faults (your slips, your false steps, your offenses, your sins) and pray [also] for one another, that you may be healed and restored [to a spiritual tone of mind and heart]. The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working].

 (James 5:16 – Amplified Bible)

 

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TRIED BY FIRE – COMING FORTH AS GOLD

AWIS Potter 1Potter and Clay

I received the following prophetic word by Elaine Tavolacci this morning via my subscription to her website, http://www.awordinseason.info. 

I believe it is a timely and encouraging word for people going through fiery trials and as such am re-blogging it with her permission.

Tried By Fire – Coming forth as Gold

October 23rd, 2013

Elaine Tavolacci

There is a book in the bible about a man named Job. He was a blameless and upright man who had experienced a great loss in every area of his life. He went through a horrendous trial for nine months. The end of the story tells us that Job was rewarded with double of everything that he lost. Job said at the end of this trying time that he shall come forth as gold because he knew that he didn’t do anything to deserve this injustice. He also understood that Gods plan for his life could not be thwarted. When God gives you a promise, it will come to pass no matter what the circumstances look like in the natural.

The Lord says, I hear your cry and I hear every prayer. As you call out to Me in the fires of affliction, I will respond. Though the trials seem to multiply, I am with you through them all. Just as the refining of gold removes impurities, the things in your life that are unacceptable shall be removed.  Just as refining gold separates the pure from the less precious metals, I am removing the dross from your life. I am releasing you into royalty which comes forth from purity. Trust Me to strengthen you as you are refined in these tying times. Disregard the opinions of those who doubt My word. The opinions of others can not negate nor cancel out My plans. Just as Job, when you are tried you will come forth as gold. In the same way that gold is symbolic for a covenant in a wedding band, I am establishing My covenant with you. Do not focus on your past so that you will not be delayed from moving into your future. I will bring you through those difficult seasons and remove those things that are confining and restricting you from moving forward. Allow Me to free you from all doubts and fears which are imprisoning you. As you trust Me, you will be released from the restraints which are holding you in bondage. You will then be free from anything that is hindering you from receiving a life of abundance.

Shake off the despair and heaviness that tries to attach itself to you. Be careful not to go back to your old ways of living or allow the enemy to intimidate you by trying to steal your identity in Me.  The  enemy could not terminate anything that I have for you, as long as you do not yield to him. Learn how to love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, rather than be critical of them. Bless them that curse you. Listen for My voice, so that you will no longer be misled by the voices of unbelief.  I Am the God of liberation, and as you refuse to submit to anything contrary to My word, I will deliver you from all the chaos in your life. You will be unchained from those things that are harming you. I am the supplier of all your needs. Trust me for your healing. Trust Me for your deliverance. Trust Me for your financial needs. Trust me in your marriage. See yourself healed and made whole. See yourself prosperous. See yourself strong and able to stand against any adversity that comes your way.  See yourself as more than a conqueror. See yourself as the blessing that I have created you to be. As you acknowledge the glorious future that I have for you, your life will be transformed and you will see My plans come to pass in your life and ministry says the Lord.”

Job 23: 10 – 12

But He knows the way that I take; When He has tested me, I shall come forth as gold. My foot has held fast to His steps; I have kept His way and not turned aside. I have not departed from the commandment of His lips; I have treasured the words of His mouth More than my necessary food.

 

Job 42:2

Job replied I know that you can do all things; no plan of Yours can be thwarted.

 

Job 42:12 -17

Now the Lord blessed the latter days of Job more than his beginning; for he had fourteen thousand sheep, six thousand camels, one thousand yoke of oxen, and one thousand female donkeys. He also had seven sons and three daughters. And he called the name of the first Jemimah, the name of the second Keziah, and the name of the third Keren-Happuch. In all the land were found no women so beautiful as the daughters of Job; and their father gave them an inheritance among their brothers. After this Job lived one hundred and forty years, and saw his children and grandchildren for four generations.  So Job died, old and full of days.

 

By Elaine Tavolacci

A Word In Season  – http://www.awordinseason.info. 

I hope the word was a blessing to you.

Be encouraged!

Kim

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THE CHOICE

THE CHOICE

"THERE IS NO SUCCESS IN A CAREER THAT CAN MAKE UP FOR FAILURE IN A FAMILY" - JOSEPHUS JIMINEZ

“THERE IS NO SUCCESS IN A CAREER THAT CAN MAKE UP FOR FAILURE IN A FAMILY”         ATTY. JOSEPHUS JIMINEZ

 

The following is a post written by Atty. Josephus Jiminez that I read on MountainWings.com.

I am re-blogging it because it has a powerful message for us all when it comes to choices relative to work vs family.

Read and be challenged, encouraged and blessed!…Kim

 

THE CHOICE

EVERY moment in life, we are faced with a choice.

Which should command our preference–the demands of our job or the duties to our family?

If there is a board meeting today at the same hours that our son graduates from school, where should we go — to the boardroom or to the graduation ceremony?

If we have to make a very important presentation tomorrow, so as to advance our career, but your wife says she has to see the doctor on a suspicion of cancer, which appointment should we keep?

These are the daily battles of conscience we have to wage, trying to keep a balance between our responsibility to earn a living and our opportunity to live a life.

And our choices invariably reveal who we really are.

Our preferences indicate our true character.

Our priorities are the best indicators of our real identity.

What profits success?

I know that many of you out there would go for career on the pretension that after all, you are doing all these for the family.

Many of you, dear readers, would rather become outstanding employees, model personnel instead of being doting fathers or loving husbands.

Many of you would opt to perform exceedingly well in the office even if you work 12 to 16 hours a day, going home only to change clothes or catch a few hours of sleep.

But what for? At the end of the day, what have you accomplished?

What profits a highly successful professional or wealthy businessman if ultimately, he loses his family, wrecks his marriage or dishonors the name he will leave to his children?

What has a rich man accomplished if he has built a fortune and founded conglomerates of highly profitable companies and yet drives his own wife to vices or infidelity, his children to drugs and delinquency and himself to spiritual decay and total burnout?

What matters most?

Look around you. The evidence is overwhelming and irreversible.

Families are shattered.

Marriages are broken.

Lives are reduced to utter emptiness.

Even as man advances in wealth and success, he deteriorates on the basic standards of joy, peace and serenity. As we all compete and struggle for power and possessions, we often neglect what really matters most. In our insatiable mania for supremacy over the rest, we often forget the most important things in life.

I will respect your choice. But as for me, my priorities are clear. Between career and family, I will always go for family.

I can forego that board meeting and earn the ire of my boss or make a bad impression on my peers. But I shall not inflict a lifetime trauma on my son by sending him alone to graduate without his dad. I can forget that business presentation and lose a valued client or waste a career promotion, but I cannot leave my wife alone in her moments of anxiety.

Meaningless?

Why should a well-known public figure commit suicide given all his fame and fortune? Can his wealth and wisdom compensate for ruptures in his relationships?

Why should a wife of a famous politician commit adultery with the family driver? Is it lust or vain fixation for the pleasures of the flesh? Or is it the pain of being neglected and ignored by the husband she used to adore?

Why should a son cut his wrist or a daughter drink poison despite all the luxuries and pleasures they are showered with?

Can money replace love?

Can pleasure take the place of affections?

In this age of top line technology and convenience gadgets, why are humans talking to computers rather than with each other? Why are we retrenching people and replacing them with robots and machines?

Why have we lost the simple joys of nurturing relationships with bank tellers because we have replaced them with ATMs?

Why, with all our cells, e-mails, Internets, websites or the endemic texting, are we no longer communicating? Why are family members no longer talking to each other?

The ultimate hell?

To succeed in career and fail in the family is, to me, the ultimate hell.

John Grisham, that famous author of legal fictions wrote “The Testament,” which tells of a highly successful industrialist who made billions of dollars but lost his family.

In the first 10 pages of the novel, he jumped to his death from his multi-story building in front of his self-centered children. By his will, he disinherited all of them and bequeathed his entire estate to an illegitimate daughter who refused to accept it.

That is the ultimate irony; those who lusted for money lost it.

Those who were given all the money refused it.

In all his dozen masterpieces, Grisham tells us about the importance of family. “A Time to Kill” tells of a father who went to jail for killing his daughter’s rapists.

Indeed, we who are simple folks should learn from the mistakes of others. We should straighten our lives and put our priorities in order.

I don’t know about you.

But as for me and my house, our credo is: There is no success in a career that can make up for a failure in the family.

 

By Atty. Josephus Jimenez

Writer for the Philippine Daily Inquirer 

Source – http://www.mountainwings.com/past/3290.htm

http://www.MountainWings.com

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TIME FOR A RETHINK

TIME FOR A RETHINK

 

COULD GOD BE TELLING YOU SOMETHING?

COULD GOD BE TELLING YOU SOMETHING?

 

COLLI-SHUN

TRANSIT-SHUN

REPOSIT-SHUN

 

Sometimes God uses conflict and rejection to push His children into their destiny.

Ask Him to help you re-evaluate your situation through His eyes.

 

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
    neither are your ways my ways,”
declares the Lord.
 “As the heavens are higher than the earth,
    so are my ways higher than your ways
    and my thoughts than your thoughts.”

(Isaiah 55:8-9 – Amplified Bible)

 

SELAH!

 

Kim

 

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DON’T QUIT

DON’T QUIT

DON'T

DON’T QUIT!

 

If you feel like giving up today, I have a message for you “don’t quit!”

The following poem has been around for many, many years yet it continues to inspire people worldwide as if written today.

Whatever your situation, may it stimulate, motivate, encourage, inspire, influence, rouse, move, stir, energize, incite you not to give up, not to quit.

 

DON’T QUIT

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will, 


When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill, 


When the funds are low and the debts are high, 


And you want to smile, but you have to sigh, 


When care is pressing you down a bit, 


Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.

 

Life is queer with its twists and turns, 


As every one of us sometimes learns, 


And many a failure turns about, 


When he might have won had he stuck it out,

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow,

You may succeed with another blow.

 

Often the goal is nearer than, 


It seems to a faint and faltering man, 


Often the struggler has given up, 


When he might have captured the victor’s cup,


And he learned too late when the night slipped down, 


How close he was to the golden crown.

 

Success is failure turned inside out,

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt, 


And you never can tell how close you are, 


It may be near when it seems so far, 


So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit,  


It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

 

– Author unknown –

 

Remember, the darkest hour is just before dawn. 

Don’t quit!

 

 

“DON’T GIVE UP”- BY KOHSHI KISHITA & GOSPEL NOW JAPAN

“THE BEST IS YET TO COME” – BY DONALD LAWRENCE

“THE BEST IS YET TO COME” – MARTHA MUNIZZI 

 

“So let’s not allow ourselves to get fatigued doing good. At the right time we will harvest a good crop if we don’t give up, or quit.”

(Galatians 6:9 – The Message Bible)

 

Be encouraged!

Kim

 

Copyright © 2013 by Kim Sweeting, Author of “Unwalled” Blog, All rights reserved.

Image “Falling Over Despair Block Stock Image” by Stuart Miles courtesy of  www.FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Video “Don’t Give Up” by Kohshi Kishita & Gospel Now Japan courtesy of Yusuke Shibata – http://www.youtube.com

Video “The Best Is Yet To Come” by Donald Lawrence courtesy of rabbit2071 – http://www.youtube.com

Video “The Best Is Yet To Come” by Martha Munizzi courtesy of Martha Munizzi – http://www.youtube.com

 

 

 

A MAN’S MAJOR NEED & THE NUMBER ONE NEED FOR A WOMAN – DR. MYLES MUNROE

A MAN’S MAJOR NEED & THE NUMBER ONE NEED FOR A WOMAN – DR. MYLES MUNROE

"LET'S MEET EACH OTHER'S NEEDS"

“LET’S MEET EACH OTHER’S NEEDS”

Do you want or need to improve the quality of your marriage?

I just came across these video clips by Dr. Myles Munroe that contain two simple yet powerful wisdom keys for husbands and wives.

I believe if practiced, these two keys would greatly improve and in many instances save marriages both within and outside of the Body of Christ.

Listen and be blessed.

A Man’s Major Need

The Number One Need for a Woman

Husbands, your wife needs affection and wives, your husband needs respect.

If your marriage is important to you, I urge you to do and not just hear this wisdom.

Be encouraged!

Kim

Copyright © 2013 by Kim Sweeting, Author of “Unwalled” Blog, All rights reserved.

Image “Connecting Hearts” by digitalart ofhttp://www.FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Video “A Man’s Major Need is Respect” by Dr. Myles Munroe courtesy of TheMarriageSnippet – http://www.youtube.com

Video “The Number One Need for a Woman” by Dr. Myles Munroe courtesy of TheMarriageSnippet – http://www.youtube.com

CHALLENGES?……….BELIEVE GOD

CHALLENGES?………BELIEVE GOD

 

"BELIEVE GOD"

“BELIEVE GOD!”

 

Challenges with your children?

Challenges with your spouse?

Challenges with your family?

BELIEVE GOD.

 

Challenges with your friends?

Challenges with your job?

Challenges with your finances?

BELIEVE GOD.

 

Challenges with your health?

Challenges with your mind?

Challenges with your emotions?

BELIEVE GOD.

 

Challenges with your ministry?

Challenges with your community?

Challenges with your country?

BELIEVE GOD.

 

What does His Word say?

What is He speaking in your heart?

What has He spoken through a prophetic word?

BELIEVE GOD.

 

BELIEVE GOD! 

BELIEVE GOD!

BELIEVE GOD!

 

“I Believe God” – Kurt Carr & Kurt Carr Singers

 

“I Believe God” – Martha Munizzi

 

THE WORK IS TO BELIEVE.

Be encouraged!

Kim

Copyright © 2013 by Kim Sweeting, Author of “Unwalled” Blog, All rights reserved.

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Video “I Believe” by Kurt Carr courtesy of SistaQueen88 – http://www.youtube.com

Video “I Believe God” by Martha Munizzi courtesy of growzie1 –  http://www.youtube.com