Have you ever found your self saying or thinking one or more of the following?


1) “If I were him/her, I would have……….”

TRUTH – You are not him/her, and you can never be him/her so you really do not know what you would have done if you were him/her.



2) “I’d never X………”

TRUTH – You have not stopped living yet and you really do not know what you will do in any given situation until you meet it face to face and have to deal with it.



3) “If it were my son/daughter, I would….……..”

TRUTH – It’s not your son/daughter so you really do not know what you’d do until it is your son/daughter.



4) “I’ve never partied, clubbed, smoked, gotten drunk, hung out with the wrong crowd, had sex outside of marriage, or stolen anything in my life…I never did any of those kinds of things……”

TRUTH – Whether visible or invisible, easily detected or subtle, socially acceptable or socially unacceptable, done in thought, word or deed, in God’s eyes, sin is sin so if committed, unforgiveness, bitterness, selfishness, gluttony, haughtiness, lying, deceitfulness, lust, envy, jealousy, gossip, and self-righteousness are all sins equally in need of forgiveness, cleansing and repentance.



5) “I only deal with the best; I only drive X, I only eat Y, I only wear Z……”

TRUTH –  It’s only by God’s goodness, grace, favor and provision that you are able to have what you have; it’s not by your power so there is no room for boasting. As easy as He allowed you to have it, He can allow it to be taken away. Humble recognition of this and gratefulness to Him are in order.


If you look closely, underlying each of these statements is a manifestation of pride.

Holman Bible Dictionaory has this to say about the meaning of pride:-

“Undue confidence in and attention to one’s own skills, accomplishments, state, possessions, or position. Pride is easier to recognize than to define, easier to recognize in others than in oneself. Many biblical words describe this concept, each with its own emphasis. Some of the synonyms for pride include arrogance, presumption, conceit, self-satisfaction, boasting, and high-mindedness. It is the opposite of humility, the proper attitude one should have in relation to God. Pride is rebellion against God because it attributes to self the honor and glory due to God alone. Proud persons do not think it necessary to ask forgiveness because they do not admit their sinful condition. This attitude toward God finds expression in one’s attitude toward others, often causing people to have a low estimate of the ability and worth of others and therefore to treat them with either contempt or cruelty. Some have considered pride to be the root and essence of sin. Others consider it to be sin in its final form. In either case, it is a grievous sin.”


(source: http://www.studylight.org/dictionaries)


“Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.

(Proverbs 16:18 – NIV)


“God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”

James 4:6 (NIV)

“For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”

Luke 14:11 (NIV)


Have you ever found your self saying or thinking one or more of the above statements? 

Father help us to be aware of any pride in our lives and to confess it, ask your forgiveness for it and by your grace repent of it as soon as it is revealed to us in Jesus’ Name….Amen.

Be encouraged!



Copyright © 2015 by Kim Sweeting, Author of “Unwalled” Blog, All rights reserved.

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Are you bound by pride?


Do you think more highly of yourself than you ought to?

Do you look down on others because you believe that you are in some way better than they?

Is there a particular action that the Spirit of God is calling you to take yet you resist because you believe you know a better way?

Is there a person in your life whose advice you know you should take yet you resist?

Is there an apology you know you need to make, forgiveness you know you need to ask for, a fault you know you need to confess yet you refuse?

Is there help you need but would not ask for?


Proverbs 16:18 states:

“Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.”


The following poem is a reminder that pride can be a destructive force in our lives that yields many negative consequences.

I originally posted it in April of 2010 and thought I’d post it again.



Who am I?

I am so powerful yet I am so sly

I play you like a fool so you hold your high.


Through me you despise others looking at them down your nose

Through me you speak ill about and make fun of their clothes.


I am the force who makes you sit still and falter

When the Spirit of God bids you come to the altar.


I subtly whisper “you’re always right”

So you ignore all advice to my utter delight.


I urge “don’t say sorry”, “don’t apologize”

And you foolishly listen to your demise.


Hey hide all your problems keep them safe and sound

That’s how I know you’ll definitely remain bound.


Rely on yourself you don’t need help to do it

Ha! – Now you’re flat on your face, wow you’re so stupid!


You hearken to me at my every call and beck

Good! – That empowers me to keep my foot on your neck.


Okay, I’ll reveal myself no longer will I hide

I’m a stronghold in your life my name is pride.



“God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”

James 4:6 (NIV)


“For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”

Luke 14:11 (NIV)


Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.

James 4:10 (NIV)



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“Who am I” Copyright © 2010 by Kim Sweeting, Author of “Unwalled” Blog, All rights reserved.






SCORN – a feeling and expression of contempt or disdain for someone or something.

CONTEMPT – the feeling that a person or a thing is worthless or deserving scorn; disregard for something that should be considered

DISDAIN – the feeling that someone or something is unworthy of one’s consideration or respect

(Source: http://www.oxforddictionaries.com)


Beware of the attitude that you hold in your heart toward others who are, or who you think are in some way less fortunate than you.

If you have a strong, fit and healthy body, beware not to scorn others who don’t.

If you hold a position of leadership and authority in some area, beware not to scorn others who don’t.

If you have a well-paying job with a position of influence and power, beware not to scorn others who don’t.

If you are smart and catch on to things quickly, beware not to scorn others who don’t.

If you have a successful and profitable business, beware not to scorn others who don’t.

If you have a marriage that is happy and fulfilling, beware not to scorn others who don’t.

If you have focused, well-behaved children that do not give you problems, beware not to scorn others who don’t.

If you have a close-knit loving family who will stand by you through any situation, beware not to scorn others who don’t.

If you have money over and above to meet your needs, beware not to scorn others who don’t.

If you have shoes and clothes that are fashionable and costly, beware not to scorn others who don’t.

If you live in a nice house or neighborhood, beware not to scorn others who don’t.

If you drive a nice vehicle, beware not to scorn others who don’t.

If you have gifts, talents and abilities that help you excel in particular areas, beware not to scorn others who don’t.

If you have a ministry that is effective and expanding, beware not to scorn others who don’t.

If you have a relationship with God through Jesus Christ, beware not to scorn others who don’t.

If you have a mature relationship with God and a good understanding of His Kingdom, beware not to scorn others who don’t.


Beware not to scorn others who are, or who you think are in some way less fortunate than you.

Remember, every good thing that you have or experience is because of the goodness, grace and blessing of God on your life.

Remember also that you have not finished living yet and do not know what your future holds.


“For by the grace (unmerited favor of God) given to me I warn everyone among you not to estimate and think of himself more highly than he ought [not to have an exaggerated opinion of his own importance], but to rate his ability with sober judgment, each according to the degree of faith apportioned by God to him.”

(Romans 12:3 – Amplified Bible)

“For who makes you different from anyone else? What do you have that you did not receive? And if you did receive it, why do you boast as though you did not?”

(I Corinthians 4: 7 – NIV, 1984)

“Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.”

(James 1:17 – NIV, 1984)

“Haughty eyes, a proud heart, and evil actions are all sin.”

(Proverbs 21:4 – NLT)

“He has showed you, O man, what is good.
 And what does the Lord require of you?
 To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.”

(Micah 6:8 – NIV, 1984)



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Whenever a man and woman come together in holy matrimony, there is an intermeshing of two distinct bodies, minds, souls, spirits, families, histories, experiences, personalities, world views, expectations and imperfections so conflict is inevitable at some point in the union. This stands true whether the individuals are Believers in Christ or not……can I get a witness???…okay, I won’t get “churchy” on you (smile!).

After over nineteen years of marriage, I am blessed to be able to say that the canvas of my matrimonial relationship is painted with more blue skies than grey, more mountains than valleys, and more roses than thorns, nevertheless, like many other Christian women, I have faced my share of marital challenges.

The following are five “sanity-saving” strategies that I have found helpful in my experience as a married Christian woman. It is my prayer that you find them helpful too.

1)  Recognize and accept that your husband is not perfect.

This may come as a great surprise to you, but your husband is not the only one in your marital relationship that is not perfect, neither are you…..ouch!

It is important to accept and recognize that the same way you are on a life-long journey of learning, growth and development and are therefore likely to make some mistakes or “not so good” decisions at some point, so is your husband.

Remembering this will help you to have more patience, compassion and understanding when it comes to dealing with his short-comings, weaknesses and failures.

2)  Look to God as your source, not your husband.

Whatever your needs, whether mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, or financial, practice going to God first about how they can be met as opposed to automatically looking to your husband to meet them.

Ask God for wisdom and direction as to how best to deal with your needs, and know that at times, He may not give you the liberty of voicing them to your husband, but may instead require you to quietly wait on Him to intervene and meet them in His way and His time.

Also, remember that by divine design, your husband will never be able to meet all of your needs so be careful not to fall into the trap of placing unreasonable demands on him, i.e., expecting him to give you what only God can give, or  be to you who only God can be.

3)  Do not try to change your husband.

Although they may deny it, many Christian women secretly take on the role of “Holy Ghost Jr.” and set out to change their husbands into the man that they believe he should be.

Woman of God, do yourself and your husband a favor and “don’t go there”.

No matter what you may think, feel, or believe, the truth of the matter is that you can not change your husband, only God can, so you may as well not even try.

Setting out to change your husband is an exercise in frustration and futility because changing a person is a role reserved by God for the Holy Spirit to be done in His way and His time.

Also, be aware that even when your husband is in “error” or “at fault”, sometimes God may not change him right away, but may instead require that you adjust or change first instead.

From your view, this may not be pleasant, or even seem fair, but God is God so we must trust Him and His infinite wisdom to work, in and through our situations as He knows is best.

4)  No matter what your husband does, forgive him.

Let’s face it, whether intentionally or unintentionally, sometimes husbands say and do some very hurtful and even harmful things.  

When faced with this kind of situation, in spite of the temptation and or desire to retaliate or hold bitterness, anger and resentment toward your spouse, you need to forgive him.


Hold on a minute!!!!!

Do you know what he did to me?

Do you know what he said to me?

Do you know what he told others about me?

Look at how much I am suffering!

And I must forgive him?

You have got to be out of your mind!!!

Yes, I am out of my mind.

I am out of my fleshly mind, because my fleshly mind would tell you to retaliate and seek some type of revenge, to find a way to as Bahamians say, “do him in!”, but that is not the way of the Kingdom; it is not the mind of Christ.

Matthew 6:14, 15 states, “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” (New Living Translation)


No one on the face of this earth, including your husband, is worth influencing you to the point where you find yourself walking in a place of unforgiveness with God…….absolutely no one! Selah!

No matter what we face within our marriages, as Christian wives, it is critical that we diligently guard our hearts from harboring a spirit of unforgiveness towards our husbands.

If ever you find it difficult to forgive your husband, stop and think about the many times you sinned against God and He in His mercy forgave you………..I think that should help.

5)  Never love your husband more than you love God.

As Christian women, while it is Biblically correct to obey our husbands, we are not to do so if what our husband desires is in opposition to what God requires.

God measures our love for Him by our obedience to Him so if we do what our husband desires when it is in opposition to what God requires, we show that we love our husbands more than we love God and this is never right.

God is a jealous God and He makes it emphatically clear in His Word that we are to have no other gods before him.

This means that no matter how “good” your husband may be he should never have first place in your life.

Love your husband, but never allow him to sit on the seat of the throne of your heart, that place is reserved for God alone.

If you ever allow your husband to become an idol in your heart, you can rest assured that at some point, God will take action to correct the situation.

Well, those are five “sanity-saving” strategies that I have found helpful in my experience as a married Christian woman. 

I hope you find them helpful too.

Be encouraged!


Copyright © 2011 by Kim, Author of “Unwalled” Blog, All rights reserved.


A Word For Those Who are Trying to “Make it Happen”

If you are a Believer/Kingdom Ambassador with a God-given vision for some area of your life who is trying to “make it happen”, but not getting the results that you desire, I believe that the Lord impressed this word upon my heart for you. 

There is a process and timing to everything and you can not force or manipulate things to happen in your way and your time; you must learn to wait on Me. It is My job to bring manifestation and change. To everything there is a time, season and purpose; flow with my timing. Stop trying to force things to happen. This is burdensome living. It is tiring you trying to manipulate My timing. Don’t force, flow. Go with My flow. My yoke is easy and My burden is light. Your job is to obey and honor me in whatever you do. My job is to bring forth manifestation. Allow yourself to grow. Allow others connected to the vision to grow. Allow my processing to occur. Allow me to bring forth fruit in the proper season.

You are creating much tension in your life by trying to “make it happen”. Trust in My timing. Know that I am at work and I don’t need you to manipulate the process. My timing is perfect, My processing is perfect, I am perfect, trust Me. A lot of stress that you are experiencing is a result of you trying to make things happen outside of My timing and outside of what the authority figures I have placed in your life are embracing and allowing. Release the spirit of forcefulness, control and manipulation and embrace My timing and the readiness of the authority figures I have placed in your life.

Having vision in your situation does not authorize you to move in a spirit of domination, manipulation and control. I the Lord am the change agent. When change and movement toward goals and visions is not forthcoming in your time, pace and way, it does not authorize you to curse, degrade, put down, criticize or condemn those who are not moving or changing in your time and your way. This is wrong, sinful, and a manifestation of thinking more highly of yourself than you ought to think. It is generated from a position of pride in your heart based on your belief that that you think better, know better, and are better. This is sinful and wrong.

The key is to discern, accept and flow in My timing and to obey all that I ask of you. No amount of fasting, prayer, tears, sowing, or pleading will move My hand before My set time. I the Sovereign One am working on My timetable causing all things to work together for good, for those who love Me and are the called according to My purposes. The bottom line is I am God and you are not. Accept this, rest in this, trust Me and live.

Be encouraged!


 “TO EVERYTHING there is a season, and a time for every  matter or purpose under heaven:”

– Ecclesiastes 3:1 –


Could Love Be The Missing Link?

What are you believing God for that has not happened yet?………..salvation for a lost loved one, healing in your body, a needed financial breakthrough for a friend, an increased understanding of the Word, an expansion in your ministry, revelation of God’s plan and purpose for you life?

 “Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.”

(Hebrews 11:1 – NIV)

What do you have faith in God to do, see, or receive for yourself or someone else but there is no manifestation up to this point?

Perhaps what you desire is not within God’s will.

Maybe it is simply not yet time for manifestation.

Or, could it be that there is a lack of love somewhere in the equation……….. could love be the missing link?

 “For in Jesus Christ neither circumcision availeth any thing, nor uncircumcision; but faith which worketh by love.”

(Galatians 5:6 – KJV)

Galatians 5:6 (KJV) tells us that faith works by love.

According to Strong’s Concordance, the Greek word for worketh is “energeō”, which is pronounced “en-erg-eh’-o” and it means, to be active, efficient: – do, (be) effectual (fervent), be mighty in, shew forth self, work (effectually in).”

So then, faith is active, efficient, energized, and effectual, shows itself forth and works effectually in or by love.

Hhhhmmmm!…………..Considering this scripture, could love be the missing link?

Could a lack of love on your part toward God, yourself and/or others be why there has not yet been a manifestation of your faith?

How’s your love walk towards God?

Before you answer that, let’s look at what the Word has to say about how God expects us to prove our love toward Him.

In John 14:15, Jesus states:-

“If you [really] love Me, you will keep (obey) My commands.”

(John 14:15 – Amplified Bible)

In I John 5:3 it is written:-

“For the [true] love of God is this: that we do His commands [keep His ordinances and are mindful of His precepts and teaching]. And these orders of His are not irksome (burdensome, oppressive, or grievous).”

(1 John 5:3 – Amplified Bible)

God measures our love towards Him by our obedience to Him and not by any warm, fuzzy, emotions, or good feelings that we may experience when we think of who He is and what He has done for us.

So I ask again, how is your love walk toward God?

Do you sincerely and earnestly seek to know and do His will each day of your life in each situation that you encounter?

To demonstrate our love for God we must obey Him and to obey Him, we must know what He requires of us through the Word and His Holy Spirit.

Faith works by love.

So what about your love walk toward others, how’s that?

Could a lack of love on your part toward others be why there has not yet been a manifestation of your faith?

I Corinthians chapter 13, verses 4-6 describes the love we are to have toward others.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

(1 Corinthians 13:4-6 – NIV)

As you can see from this scripture, this love is action-based and not emotion-based. It is a love that we make a conscious decision to show in spite of how we feel. It is agape, the God-kind of love.

How’s your love walk toward those for whom you are praying?

Are you demonstrating this agape love, this God-kind of love toward the people whose salvation or deliverance you are believing God for?

Is your attitude and behavior toward them marked by love, kindness and patience, or by impatience, anger, rudeness and an arrogant spirit of condescending boastful pride in your own salvation?

“Love means doing what God has commanded us, and he has commanded us to love one another, just as you heard from the beginning.”

(2 John 1:6 – NLT)

Faith works by love.

If you find that you lack love toward others, maybe it’s because you do not truly love yourself.

In Matthew 22:36-40 when asked which is the greatest or the most important commandment in the law, Jesus replied:-

“‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’  This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.”

(Matthew 22:37-40 – NLT)

Jesus said we are to love our neighbors as ourselves.

How’s your love walk toward yourself?

Do you have the God-kind of love toward yourself?

Are you patient with and kind to yourself or impatient and mean?

Are you easily angered with and hold grudges and secret hatred toward yourself or are you merciful and forgiving toward yourself?

If we do not have Godly love for ourselves, it is not then understandable why we may lack such love toward others?

Faith works by love.

Could love be the missing link in our assemblies?

Could a general lack of obedience to God and a general lack of genuine love toward each other in the Body of Christ be a key reason why we have so much expressed faith yet so little manifested results?

Isn’t it ironic how so often we as Saints can willfully disobey God, thereby not walking in love toward Him, not repent, yet expect our faith to work and produce great results in our lives and the lives of others?

Isn’t it ironic how so often we pray in faith for persons, believing God for a breakthrough, yet harbor envy, jealousy, anger, unforgiveness, bitterness, offense and grudges toward these same people, i.e., not walk in love toward them, yet expect our faith to work and produce great manifestation?  

In Matthew 24:12, Jesus warns that one of the signs of the last days is that because iniquity, i.e., lawlessness and wickedness will abound, the love of many will wax cold.

Since faith works by love, as Kingdom Ambassadors, you and I need to make it a priority to guard our hearts to ensure that we are not counted among those whose love waxes cold because it will hinder the working of our faith and subsequently the outward manifestation of the Kingdom to the honor and glory of God.

Faith works by love.

So my fellow Ambassadors, today if you are believing God for something, in addition to checking to see if your desires are in line with God’s will, and checking with the Lord about His timing, I urge you to check your love walk too.

Take some time to ask the Holy Spirit to show you where you are at in regard to your love for God, love for yourself and love for others, and ask Him to help you make any needed adjustments.

According to Romans 5:5, the Holy Spirit has already poured the love of God into our hearts, so the issue is not whether or not the love is there, it is a matter of by the grace of God,  making a decision to die to self and practice walking in it.

Man of God, Woman of God, let’s not let love be the missing link.





As Believers, many times we find it so easy to judge others when they behave rude, “out of sorts”, disgusting, touchy, or in some other negative, distasteful or sinful way.

There’s a story behind every story.

We find it so easy to look at the person’s attitude and/or behavior and piously think and/or say:-

“How could they do that?”

“How could they say that?”

“How could they act like that?”

“I would never do that!”

“I would never say that!”

“I would never act like that!”

We think these pious thoughts and/or speak these pious words forgetting the times prior to our being saved, and even since being saved, when we behaved rude, “out of sorts”, disgusting, touchy, or in some other negative, distasteful or sinful way.

There’s a story behind every story.

We think these pious thoughts and/or speak these pious words forgetting that we are not perfect and have not finished living yet so there is no guarantee that we will not display some of those same attitudes and/behaviors in the future, and if we do act in an appropriate or God-pleasing way, it is only because of God’s grace at work in our lives.

There’s a story behind every story.

We think these pious thoughts and/or speak these pious words without even wondering why the person is acting in this way and considering that perhaps they may be under pressure or battling with some unknown negative situation.

There’s a story behind every story.

The sad part about it is that if the Holy Spirit were to shine God’s revelatory light on our hearts when we are having such thoughts or speaking such words, to our shame He would find self-righteousness, pride, scorn, disgust, and condemnation instead of mercy, love, humility, concern, empathy, and compassion……Saints, in God’s eyes, this is simply not right.

There’s a story behind every story.

Every individual  that we encounter in life is a complex combination of factors that influence their attitudes and behaviors.

There’s a story behind every story.

There are genetic factors, personality factors, cultural factors, childhood experiences, family experiences, school experiences, work experiences, friendship experiences, relationship experiences, marriage experiences, health experiences, spiritual experiences, verbal, mental, emotional, physical and/or sexual abuse, physical, mental and/or emotional pain, pressures, feelings of insecurity, unworthiness, rejection, anger, fear, and the sin nature, just to name a few.

There’s a story behind every story.

Many times the rude, “out of sorts”, disgusting, touchy, negative, distasteful or sinful attitudes and behaviors that we see displayed by a person are really a manifestation or byproduct of the story behind their story, i.e., a manifestation or byproduct of a combination of these factors, a manifestation or byproduct of what is behind what you see or experience from them.

There’s a story behind every story.

When considering this, and the fact that we too have a story behind our story, can we really justify judging them so harshly?

As Kingdom Ambassadors and Believers in Jesus Christ, the next time we encounter a person who is behaving “out of sorts”, rude, disgusting, or in some negative, distasteful or sinful way, instead of mentally or verbally flying to a state of pious condemning judgment, let’s pause to remember that there is a story behind their story and pray.

Let’s ask the Lord to help us see the person through His eyes, to help us see beyond their attitude and behavior to seeing a soul for whom He died.

Let’s ask Him to help us see beyond their attitude and behavior to seeing a person who has a life story that may be affecting the way he/she thinks, speaks and acts.

Let’s ask Him to help us see beyond their attitude and behavior to seeing a person who may be hurting and in need of love, understanding, compassion, salvation, healing or deliverance.

Let’s ask Him to bless the person and minister to them at their point of need.

Let’s ask Him if there is anything He wants us to say to or do for the person that would help or encourage them in some way. 

We live in an era where stress, problems and “short fuses” abound, and as time winds down, so will persons who behave rude, “out of sorts”, disgusting, touchy, or in some other negative, distasteful or sinful way.

By the grace of God let’s train ourselves to not resort to harsh judgment in our thoughts and speech, but to instead, have a posture of love, concern and compassion, remembering that there is a story behind each person’s story.

Be encouraged!


“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”

(I Corinthians 13:4-7)

 “For God so greatly loved and dearly prized the world that He [even] gave up His only begotten (unique) Son, so that whoever believes in (trusts in, clings to, relies on) Him shall not perish (come to destruction, be lost) but have eternal (everlasting) life.

For God did not send the Son into the world in order to judge (to reject, to condemn, to pass sentence on) the world, but that the world might find salvation and be made safe and sound through Him.”

(John 3:16, 17 – Amplified Bible)





Many times in the church we are so quick to point out where the world is falling short of God’s standards in relation to sex, but do not want to confront and deal with the sexual sin that is present among us.

Sexual sin among us? Yes among us.  Among the Believers, the Saints, the People of God, The Kingdom Citizens, among us.

The Apostle Paul, under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit confronted the issue of sexual sin in the church at Corinth, admonishing them to:

“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price.Therefore honor God with your body.”

(1 Corinthians 6:18-20 – NIV)

Although these words were penned hundreds of years ago to the early church, God is saying the same thing to us as the church today, we must flee from sexual immorality.

The following is a poem that depicts an all too common story involving sexual sin.

Please note that I do not know any persons by the names of “Brother George”  or “Pearline” who had, or have, any kind of  relationship with each other so any such occurrence is pure coincidence.

The purpose of the poem is to serve as a warning for us in the church to flee sexual immorality. It is written with quite a lot of  Bahamian dialect so I hope those of you who are not from the Bahamas are able to understand.

God bless!

 Brother George & Pearline

Brother George got up, stretched and rubbed his eyes,

Tonight I wonder which gal ga be my prize,

Some er dem so weak dey can’t resist me,

One compliment, one dinner, an dey dish it for free.


He sat on the bed and got out his black book,

He flipped through the pages to take a quick look,

Not Sister Donna, not Sister Marsha, not Lucy, not Clem,

Man dey ain no challenge I done run tru dem.


Then Brother George remembered Pearline the new lady next door,

Low cut blouse, skin tight pants hey who could ask for more,

Oh man she sooo sexy, I just can’t wait

So he got dressed went over and asked her for a date.


“Sure” Pearline said with a smile on her face,

Then she slipped on an outfit and they left her place,

But what Brother George did not realize to his demise,

There was much more to Pearline than what met his eyes.


After having dinner and now sitting on the beach,

Brother George grinned to himself “Now my prize is in reach”,

So he gently began to stroke Pearline’s hand,

And next thing you know they were rolling in the sand.


He took Pearline home and gave her a good night kiss,

Thinking “man I didn’t expect it to be as easy as dis”,

Back in his bedroom he puffed up his chest,

and said, “Boy, George you bad now, das annuder conquest.”


Two days later Brother George’s cousin stopped by,

Brother George told him about Pearline and he started to sigh,

He said “Boy I hope you ain talkin bout dat woman next door”

“Because she gat AIDS” – Brother George fell to the floor!


When Brother George’s cousin left he could not sleep,

“But she look so healthy, man dis really run deep”,

From the outside he did not notice one thing,

And now he sorrowfully regretted having the fling.


Months later to the doctor Brother George went shaking,

When called in for his test results his knees were quaking,

The doctor looked at him and sadly shook his head,

“I’m sorry except for a miracle you’ll soon be dead”.


Brother George went and found Pearline, his heart filled with dread,

“Girl you know you had AIDS” he angrily said,

Pearline shrugged her shoulders without batting an eye,

“Well you wanted me, right?” was her reply.


Pearline died first then Brother George followed her,

Leaving their families and friends in a blur,

It’s sad to say but the truth is you see,

What happened to them is a common story.


Many, many a life have been lost this way,

Because from God’s guidelines we go astray,

No, I sit not in judgment, all pious and scorning,

But as one that’s concerned and simply issuing a warning.


“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God;”

(1 Thessalonians 4:3-6 – NIV)

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“Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and the prophets”

(Matthew 7:12 – NLT).



The barber shop was filled with men fat and thin,

They laughed and made fun of how this guy got turned in,

“He been stealin from his job for years” was the cry,

Ray said but for God’s grace there go I.


Walking through the mall was a company of three,

Tongues wagging fast, faces lit up with glee,

“Humph! Singing in the choir now her belly puff up high”,

Cindy said but for God’s grace there go I.


At the luncheon today many people were there,

Harsh words about the fallen preacher filled the air,

“He should know better”, “He deserves to die”,

Phil said but for God’s grace there go I.


In the cafeteria at work some ladies were squawking,

Near the water cooler another crew were gawking,

“Das good, he too slick an he too like to lie”,

Bernice said but for God’s grace there go I.


Ray, Cindy, Phil and Bernice are all very wise,

They look at other’s faults through humble eyes,

Whenever they learn what someone else has done,

They’re not quick to judge and hold out a gun.


So if you hear of a person who takes a great fall,

Before commenting from a high horse check your life first of all,

For if you are honest you too will sigh,

And say but for God’s grace there go I.


“Judge not, that you be not judged.  For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you.”

Matthew 7:1-2 (NKJV)


“Rejoice not when your enemy falls, and let not your heart be glad when he stumbles or is overthrown, Lest the Lord see it and it be evil in His eyes and displease Him, and He turn away His wrath from him [to expend it upon you, the worse offender].”

(Proverbs 24:17, 18 – Amplified Bible)


“BRETHREN, IF any person is overtaken in misconduct or sin of any sort, you who are spiritual [who are responsive to and controlled by the Spirit] should set him right and restore and reinstate him, without any sense of superiority and with all gentleness, keeping an attentive eye on yourself, lest you should be tempted also.”

(Galatians 6:1 – Amplified Bible)


“So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!”

(I Corinthians 10:12 – NIV)


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I have a plan, a sovereign plan,

that will not be changed by any man,

Come with whatever and do what you may,

this plan is in place and it will stay.


Yes you have power and authority,

but do not forget that it comes from Me,

Because I have given you some influence and say,

it does not mean you will have it your way.


Remember my child at the core of it all,

I am the One who makes the last call,

So please keep this in mind and know your place,

it will save you much hassle as you run the race.



“Who is he who speaks and it comes to pass,

if the Lord has not authorized and commanded it?”

(Lamentations 3:37 – Amplified Bible)


“From eternity to eternity I am the only God, says the Lord. 

No one can oppose what I do.

 No one can reverse my actions.”

(Isaiah 43:13 – N LT)


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